• Evilsandwichman [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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    7 months ago

    If you’re going to seek legal support, maybe this advice will hurt rather than help, but if you want to tick them off, just respond ‘language’, and then when they swear like a sailor, just respond ‘Sir, language’; if this ‘person’ doesn’t seek to escalate this into the physical, just troll them.

  • PaulSmackage [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    7 months ago

    Yeah, a switch was flipped in Canadian’s minds because of the conflict. My old coworker is from Russia and was harassed recently at a library and it’s like, he was there picking some books up with his grandaughter. Be normal.

      • SadArtemis🏳️‍⚧️@lemmygrad.ml
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        Agreed, I think most people looking in from outside underestimate how virulent things are here. As someone who’s ethnic Chinese, honestly I could see limited internment camps in the mid-term future. And the simmering widespread hatred against Indians, Muslims, First Nations, and (for those who buy into the lib drivel) Russians is spiraling just as badly.

        I feel like- more than even the US, a general malaise dominates the country, one that I am not immune to as well (hence why I want to get the hell out). Economically and otherwise everyone knows this country is irredeemably corrupt, economically spiraling, and that their livelihoods will only get worse in the near future- and similarly to Weimar Germany, the already inherently racist, divided society is finding scapegoats to target as a result.

  • the_post_of_tom_joad [any, any]@hexbear.net
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    7 months ago

    If ya don’t have a camera pointed at your car yet it would likely behoove you to do so. Something like a ring doorbell but not Wi-Fi (you know what i mean) would be smart too. I too am doubtful a direct confrontation is coming (in the short term based on this text) but i am convinced by this text that they will escalate until they get some kind of reaction from you so do protect yourself and prepare.

    Much love

    • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmygrad.mlOP
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      7 months ago

      I actually just picked up a small wireless motion sensing cam that I’m going to leave on the dashboard. If I’m lucky maybe he’ll come by to check the car and I’ll know who it is. And yeah gonna have to pay attention in the near future in case this does escalate into something physical.

      And thanks, support from comrades is much appreciated!

    • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmygrad.mlOP
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      7 months ago

      Yeah, started getting these increasingly unhinged messages on Thursday. The number is an internet service, so they were smart enough to hide their cell.

      Definitely gonna have to watch my back. So far I don’t get the impression that he’s looking for a physical altercation, otherwise would’ve confronted me in person.

      But this is clearly premeditated given that he’s been stalking me and my wife, and went through the trouble of figuring out my cell number.

    • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmygrad.mlOP
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      7 months ago

      For sure, having a crazy stalker living in your building is definitely not great. I’d honestly prefer it if he’d just confronted me face to face. This is way creepier.

    • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmygrad.mlOP
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      Nothing I can think of IRL, like I haven’t had any bad interactions with the neighbours or anything. Whoever it is has been careful not to make it obvious they’ve been watching me. It just kind of came out of the blue to be honest. I’m guessing based on the whole long live Ukraine bit, racism coupled with being invested in project Ukraine is the trigger.

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    7 months ago

    Time to arm yourself and your partner… martial arts lessons might also be a good idea.

    Another comrade also suggested a camera pointed at your car. I concur. Double check who is at the door before answering. Get a peephole if you don’t have one.

    • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmygrad.mlOP
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      I started doing martial arts back in university and kept it up for like 20 years now. Of course, you never know if the guy will have a knife or a gun, so still definitely concerning. But I’m as well prepared for that as I’m going to be I figure. More worried for my partner, and I’m thinking we should order some bear spray for her to carry. I did get a cam, so we’ll see if that catches anything.

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        Wait, so you’re Canadian? Well Canada has very well defined hate crime legislation, so you can very easily get this nazi to do some hard time before they have a chance to carry out any acts of domestic terrorism against your family. For all the country’s flaws they at least take that kind of shit seriously.

        • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmygrad.mlOP
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          Yup I’m from Canada, I did file a report with the hate crime unit, so we’ll see where that goes. The messages have been unhinged, but stopping short of being direct threats so far. If the cops really did want to find this guy they’d have to contact Iristel, the company that provides the sms service, and they could get the identity of whoever sent the message to my number that way. It wouldn’t be that hard to do. They did say they’ll get back to me, so I’ll post an update on how this develops.

            • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmygrad.mlOP
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              Yeah that’s what I figure. A friend of mine said something similar happened with him, and what he ended up doing was to get a lawyer to open a civil case which leads to discovery where they figure out who the other party is. It cost him around 3k to do it, but if this keeps going might be worth it.

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        7 months ago

        Just checked and tasers are illegal up there too, what the fuck is going in in canada

        Honestly, maybe a vial of capascin powder and sand than can be poured into the hand and thrown?

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          To be fair pepper spray is like, a war crime so it’s not at all surprising why it’s not allowed.

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            Something to be wary of is, iirc, a lot of stuff becomes illegal in Canada if you’re carrying it for self-defense reasons. Like owning a baseball bat is fine, owning a baseball bat and telling a cop (hypothetically, of course we wouldn’t talk to a cop) that you’re carrying it in case someone attacks you is not fine. So you’d need to go with something that has a plausible reason you’d be carrying it that isn’t this racist asshole I think

            • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmygrad.mlOP
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              I was just reading up on this. We have some weird rules here. Basically, you’re not allowed to carry any item with express purpose of self defense, but you can use it incidentally if you had one on you for a different purpose. And there’s also the whole proportional force aspect.

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    7 months ago

    Holy shit man, I’m sorry you gotta deal with this!

    Extending support. Stay safe out there and never feel bad about utilizing the system to protect yourself.

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    Honestly people who do shit like this are too chickenshit to be trying anything irl, but I’d certainly stay ready for action either way, be safe comrade. Document everything.

    • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmygrad.mlOP
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      That’s been my thinking as well, I’ve been screenshotting every message I get just to build up a paper trail. If it gets physical, it’s going to be easier to prove I was defending myself if I can establish a pattern of harassment on his part.