So what’s her excuse when it’s the other way around?
Why wouldn’t it be video games?
Because women don’t play video games, silly!
Because the text makes it sound like the person disapproves of the delay being caused by video games.
Also the language is weirdly stilted in a way that suggests they probably dont play video games.
Fully half of women report they never play video games, and even more report specifically playing The Sims and nothing else.
Lots of chicks out there for whom gaming isn’t part of their world.
We’re not allowed to ax that question.
For me it’s not video games, but adequacy. I found out that if I’m tired, I behave like shit and may respond with some gibberish
For an average guy, you’d be lucky to get more than one convo.
As another user mentioned, there are bigger priorities at the moment on top of texting-- like you’re working. And personally, I don’t like texting especially with crappy autocorrect of phones. I prefer speaking in person.
At one point in college some friends and i made up a system for just explicitly state what sort of response you needed. Ok, “made up a system” is a little over stating it. Basically it was “Hey this is important can I have your undivided attention?” through the lens of stupid nerd jokes. Like, “setPriority(10) i’m locked out of my apartment do you have a spare key?” vs “setPriority(0) i am so mad that fallout3 requires GFWL”
Now i’d probably just say “hey this is important do you have a few minutes?” in normal words.
I unironicly love that
Thinking about it, I think I have 4 priorities as things stand: 4 - Message in the group chat 3 - Message in the group chat with @ 2 - Direct message 1 - Phone call
Priority 00 - A regular text message and two phone calls back to back.
Priority -1 - I’m showing up at your door.
-2 - I’m breaking in with a battering ram
If you used setPriority, does that mean all subsequent messages have the same priority? Or is this a dsl that implicitly takes the message as the second parameter?
The priority would stay as set until explicitly changed, or it was set back to the default after a period of inactivity.
Pretty good protocol. I like it.
Its
UDP
Unlimited Dependable Priority
setPriority(4) Hmmm actually I like this
Wait… some people immediately text back, over and over? Huh.
If you want immediate responses, CALL THEM.
Yeah, it’s weird that we’ve relegated this amazing technology that lets you communicate by voice (and now video) to the back burner in favor of a far more cumbersome one that removes so much context in terms of tone.
I hate the ringing of a phone, so I think it is a very acceptable level of cumbersome.
Ew. Call? Like on a phone?
If you send me more than three texts in a row, I’m calling your ass to sort things out.
I don’t want to be repeatedly distracted from real life. It’s annoying.
Whenever someone sends me an important message and I don’t read/respond in time, they call to get my attention so I can do so. My ex used to get mad at me for “ignoring” her for 2h or more and would call. I was just busy doing whatever and ignoring the phone as usual.
I hate that. Also in a business setting. By definition a message (be it text, email, whatever) is not urgent. They might be important and of course you shouldn’t leave them unread for days, but for urgency there’s calls.
I always perceive an IM as high but not immediate importance, an email as “get to it when you can”, and phone call as immediate.
The older people I work with tend to call for email level things.
Orrrrrr he has social anxiety and has difficulty replying.
Sincerely, somebody with social anxiety
It could be both… PvP me!
First reply> 12hrs ago
Second reply> 2hrs ago
Checks out…
This is me too. That and there is this stupid goddamn idea of “caring too much.” Like responding quickly is a bad thing because it makes you seem desperate… Ffs I wouldn’t be messaging you if I wasn’t interested, but now I need to wait and play a stupid mind game so I don’t lose the persons interest because they might assume that stupid thing about quick replies being a bad thing…
I hate mental games so freaking much…
If the other person cares about silly games like this, they might not be that interested in taking to you.
Yeah, find someone not into playing head games. There are plenty such people about.
There’s a Deathbulge comic for that, I just can’t find it. Basically a dude taking forever to reply to get “cool points” and accidentally replying immediately a second time, immediately losing all his cool
My wife plays way too many video games at work apparently. Or is this just a guy thing?
Yes I will have one round of video games please
25 Minute Civilization rounds are a thing. Just one more round bro
Battlefield rounds can easily be that too. In custom matches in can be 1½ hours!
You can tell this if your man starts replying in one minuite, but gets progressively slower and slower until it’s one hour each by the end.
No you’re talking to a guy who’s letting an llm do the groundwork.
Would probably be a lot faster if he was
I’m actually thinking about the Roman Empire when this happens.
Reminds of peep show where David Mitchell injects the Battle of Stalingrad into every other conversation he has with a woman lol
Me too, but that’s because I’m playing Crusader Kings
Any breaks during CK3 make me forget which country the daughter was to be married to compared to the country who’s line you were exterminating to get a title, yeah I need to sort that out before replying to a text about what flavour ice cream is the best. I do need to work on my memory though.
This is what happens when your boobs can no longer distract people from their lives and you have to fall back on your lack of a personality.
Controversial opinion, but actually all most people have to go on is their appearance/perceived wealth. It’s not a female problem though it’s people generally. They’re all completely vacuous. Take away their boobs/abs and they’re dull as fuck.
Or, alternatively, you have difficulty relating to others and so all you notice is their “appearance/perceived wealth”.
I can certainly say this is the case for me. I don’t know many men or women I have any real interest in getting to know better let alone actually become romantically involved with. I used to just go off physical attraction and try to power through the relationship by faking interest in whatever they wanted to talk about and being funny which could usually carry it for a few months before they got bored of me. At this stage of my life though I’ve gotten over the “need to be in a relationship to feel complete” thing so now I just don’t try to date.
You might find you fit under the aromantic umbrella, if you’re looking for others in your situation. It’s certainly a valid state to be in, and I hope that not having to seek out romantic relationships has made your life more fulfilling.
What I’d caution (or what I found particularly irritating in the comment I initially replied to) was implying that one is superior and all others are vacuous shells of human beings, which just comes across as pompous and arrogant.
I don’t think it makes me better than anyone. Sorry if my comment came across that way. If anything I think it makes me an asshole. I just can’t really do anything to change that about myself other than bow out of the dating game.
Oh don’t worry – I didn’t get that from your comment! Only the original one I replied to. And I don’t think having difficulty with romantic relationships or necessarily friendships makes you an asshole. I hope you’re able to find what makes you happy.
No society is to blame. People have been herded into getting excited by products and obsessed with TV shows. There are niches we fit into and we will never admit to thinking anything different than our chosen tribe. If you’ve chosen to be right wing, Jordan Peterson can do no wrong and to kill a mockingbird is trash. If you’re a swiftie, your goddess is absolute. If you’re on the left, Israel is inherently demonic. Etc etc. The price you pay for betraying your tribe is isolation, excommunication, disdain. We’ve bred obedience into the population and sacrificed free will. We’re constantly bombarded by Reddit poss and articles about how we’re supposed to act and what norms are good and which troubling behaviours are red flags.
So we adjust, rework ourselves, refine our personalities until they become acceptable to our chosen audience. I’d love to get to know other people, but the sad fact is that other people don’t want to be known, or have willingly ground down their personality until they’re just one of the cattle.
The games people play when dating is a classic example of this. You present yourself a certain way, you shave the right places, you say the right things. If you play correctly you can win a flashlight with the right to vote.
I’m not interested in having a sex toy that repeats whatever talking points my chosen masters expect. I am a hairy, sweaty, problematic animal. I want to become close with other wretched creatures who say and do inappropriate shit. I’M NOT INTERESTED IN FUCKING CHAT GPT!
Oof. You should do some internal work, this comes off pretty pathetically.
And you should sniff my finger.
Definitely not where that’s been
Pretty yikesy take. If your first response to a post is to reduce someone to a sex object, that’s some incel-ass vibes.
With that personality, I’d prefer you to have boobs.
Sounds like Battlefield, COD or any battle royale game. 25-35 minute average on all those
1 turn in Civilization (it’s late game and there are 15 other players).
And Ghandi got his nukes. So time is very limited before world destruction begins.
