I came across this recently and thought it was a super interesting and thorough examination of “the closet” or “coming out” of it.

  • Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Hell I’ll never forget what it felt like to look at myself in the mirror and say, “I’m not straight.”

    Saying it out loud for the first time shook me.

    It felt good to say it but I was filled with fear of telling my family and my relatives.

    It was painful at times but I figured out who my real family is and who are just relatives.

    Family is the relationship, relatives are blood. Sometimes family doesn’t share blood and that’s fine, the relationship is what matters. And whether you associate with your relatives is purely up to you.

    Thank you for sharing this post

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      I’m personally on the first part of that journey and trying to find out who my real family is. Definitely still filled with fear about telling relatives. I can definitely relate to the shookness. Except I started at trans. The realization I’m not straight was kind of a funny later realization. 🤷‍♀️

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        Most of my relatives found out not because I told them but because another relative saw my tinder profile and then they proceeded to tell everyone who would listen

        A lot of people were blocked that day

        Finding your family is hard, but having found family is worth all the effort

        I personally wouldn’t have told a lot of my relatives to be perfectly honest but the past is the past and once the secret was out I wasn’t going to deny it because seeing how poorly they reacted made me realize that I was better off and was going to be happier without having that fear hanging over my head