My brother told me to have kids. He said raising his daughter was the best thing he’s ever done. I don’t disagree, she’s awesome.
I don’t find it surprising that being a parent is super rewarding if you do it well. I can’t imagine being a parent who raises a shitstain who does something terrible and having to live with that.
I’m coming up on 40 years old and 14 years with my wife. We’re pretty honest and open with people when they ask why we don’t have and don’t want kids. We have a nice house, good careers, and could easily afford it, but we just chose not to. The really scary thing is that I’ve had several friends candidly tell me they wish they never had kids. They love their kids more than anything, but they regret having them. I think our position makes it easier for people to confide in us and share those feelings, but I find that situation dreadful. Also, I realize that feelings change over time so they may feel differently now or in the future.
As someone who’s currently struggling with this decision, it’s good to hear that you made a choice not to have kids, and don’t regret it 14 years on.
I probably have the means to raise a child, but I’m not sure if I want to sacrifice the things I see my friends sacrificing to raise a child well (not to mention the world sucks and all that).
The thing I’m most worried about is regretting my choice either way when I get older (ie having a child and regretting it, or not having a child and regretting that).
My brother told me to have kids. He said raising his daughter was the best thing he’s ever done. I don’t disagree, she’s awesome.
I don’t find it surprising that being a parent is super rewarding if you do it well. I can’t imagine being a parent who raises a shitstain who does something terrible and having to live with that.
I’m coming up on 40 years old and 14 years with my wife. We’re pretty honest and open with people when they ask why we don’t have and don’t want kids. We have a nice house, good careers, and could easily afford it, but we just chose not to. The really scary thing is that I’ve had several friends candidly tell me they wish they never had kids. They love their kids more than anything, but they regret having them. I think our position makes it easier for people to confide in us and share those feelings, but I find that situation dreadful. Also, I realize that feelings change over time so they may feel differently now or in the future.
As someone who’s currently struggling with this decision, it’s good to hear that you made a choice not to have kids, and don’t regret it 14 years on.
I probably have the means to raise a child, but I’m not sure if I want to sacrifice the things I see my friends sacrificing to raise a child well (not to mention the world sucks and all that).
The thing I’m most worried about is regretting my choice either way when I get older (ie having a child and regretting it, or not having a child and regretting that).
The way we describe having a kid is that it’s the best/worst thing you’ll ever do.