at the first college i went to, which i later dropped out of because it was austere and cruel and awful, i went to a little like high school tour day thing, and they had like a seminar for prospective students; one of the faculty talking had people coming up and asking him questions at the end, in a classroom, this was fairly informal, but it had this stuffy bullshit ‘prestigious’ ‘serious’ academia vibe like ooh this school is really tough gonna be really miserable for you
and i asked the speaker at the end like ‘so what do computer science majors actually do day to day in classes, like what sort of projects do they work on?’, completely earnestly because i was curious because i thought it’d be a cool answer and he literally said to me ‘that’s really more of a lunchroom question’ in the most pretentious tone i’ve ever heard in my life. good christ.
and i went to that school! and it was miserable!! honestly – i didn’t even fully understand or realize how utterly rude and pretentious this dude was being to me until recently. i thought i was asking a ““silly”” question but NO! NO, absolutely not, it is absolutely a valid question at a college tour day as a little high school kid. and this guy genuinely seemed so offended and put off that i’d dare ask him a silly question, like he was above answering. i genuinely did not have the brainpower at the time to process such an upjumped pretentious moron.
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When you forgive, you set someone free. And that person is yourself.
as someone that struggles with mental health, i am always on the the lookout for new tools to add to my collection. this one, lomg pause, this one hit really hard and very deep.
ive heard the forgiveness strategy put many different ways. this is simple and to the point. thank you