I had my vasectomy a week ago, and I wanted to share this bit of dialogue from the ending of El Camino: A Breaking Bad Story, which seems relevant to childfreedom:

Jesse: I’ve been thinking about that thing you said, about the universe, ‘going where the universe takes you.’ Right on. It’s a cool philosophy.

Jane: I was being metaphorical. It’s a terrible philosophy. I’ve ‘gone where the universe takes me’ my whole life. It’s better to make those decisions for yourself.

I’m with Jane on this one. For the core questions in life, like whether or not to bring a life into the world, it’s wrong to say, ‘we’ll just see what happens.’ Better to make a conscious choice, and take responsibility for that choice.