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I’m really liking the posts along these lines because there’s so much associated with ADHD that I haven’t been aware was part of it and it’s so accuratly described here. There’s kind of this sense of living like a double agent or something, except in that scenario the person knows what it is they’re hiding. I’ve gone through life having unconsciously learned that the actual reasons I do things aren’t acceptable or at least not explainable so I’m always having to improvise something more plausible or different. It’s sorta like lying, but not exactly, but there’s the ever present fear that I’ll be exposed for… something.
I almost feel like this life time of training would actually have helped me really be a secret agent if only all the other symptoms of ADHD weren’t completely debilitating and would sabotage such work terribly.
It’s sorta like lying, but not exactly, but there’s the ever present fear that I’ll be exposed for… something.
I think what you’re looking for is “masking.”
Hmm I should get tested.
Me too.
I think I may have ADD. But I think I also have autism. Now I’ve read about PDD-NOS, but is that still a thing? And how easy would it be to diagnose my cocktail of things?
Pretty sure it’s been changed around a bit lately but for shits n giggles, look up NLD (Neurological Learning Disorder) and see if that fits as well :p
Thanks for the rabbithole, hehe. Also quite fits.
ADHD is usually fairly easy to get evaluated for, depending on where you’re located. Getting evaluated for autism as an adult is usually much more difficult.
I’m not sure if this is exclusively an ADHD or neurodivergent thing.
basically no symptom of ADHD is exclusive to ADHD. But as a rule, executive dysfunction as described here will happen much more frequently and for much more mundane tasks for people with ADHD when compared to people without.
Oh shit, is that a sign of ADHD? This happens to me a lot and it’s really tough to overcome, I end up jumping between tasks to do something else, remember the important scary thing, stare at it for a bit then task bounce again.
Trouble is it’s also a symptom of general burn out, depression or just laziness. ADHD often gets confused with those although it’s categorically different
I am not sure if laziness really exists. But there are countless reasons why someone can have this issue. Additional ones are: a physical lack of energy (nutrition deficit, sleep deficit, etc.), decision or option paralysis, problems handling emotions, trauma, …
I’m sorry but laziness definitely exists. This is just going too far.
Idk, my parents and teachers were 100% sure it was laziness for years, they didn’t seem confused about it at all. It wasn’t until I was diagnosed as an adult in college that there was any confusion.
Confusingly, confused with and confused by do not mean the same thing
That is confusing
Sign of executive dysfunction, which can arise as the result of ADHD, anxiety, or other disorders.
Sign of anxiety, not necessarily ADHD.
So it’s certainly a sign of anxiety but not necessarily ADHD? That’s what you said there. It’s not necessarily either.
They often present together, and definitely have a positive feedback loop between them.
Which is why the distinction. Just like sniffles are not necessarily a cold and coughing isn’t necessarily covid.
I posted a better answer
Those two pair really well, like canned cheese and strawberry wine.
When memes getuncomfortably specific.
Yup. Wonderful memories of childhood when people were asking me “what are you trying to achieve” and I’m just sitting there thinking “I just told you I can not function like you want me to”.
Well this didn’t need to be so targeted. At least tell me how you fix that shit.
90% of the posts I never actually post are because I spend half an hour explaining my thought process and then I see the huge wall of text and then go “ah fuck that.”
Reported: “I’m in this picture and I don’t like it”
imma need these ADHD memes to stop being so relatable. Getting nervous over here
70% of survival with adhd is fighting the urge to elaborate.
Currently trying to get the relevant Government Agency to stop calling me about my mental health issues and just e-mail me instead.
I don’t know if it helps, but this is not really a lie, and you shouldn’t feel bad about saying it. You have your own reason for not being able to do something you committed to. Someone else might have a different reason that is equally personal that they don’t want to share. “I forgot and I’m sorry” is a socially acceptable way to take responsibility without sharing specifics and potentially making someone else feel confusion or pity.
You can still work on the “why wasn’t I able to do the thing I felt I needed to do” without worrying about “why wasn’t I honest about my reason”.
Just my two cents though.
Sorry but the anxiety that accompanies my add says that your two cents are good in all cases but mine because my contacts will both know I’m lying and care deeply
So this is why I struggle with daily standup
“I know that I did things, I promise, but I can’t remember what any of them are”
I’m so lucky that rarely had to work in an environment with daily stand ups. One time I did and I kinda managed for a few months until one day I just had “an episode” and got up and walked out saying “sorry, I can’t do this”. I was also very lucky to be working for an employer who supported me through the following weeks of “sick” leave and a role change.
That’s amazing, I’m so happy it turned out ok.
Since my current team’s timezone is all over the place, we do our standup async via text, so it’s not so bad. But still having to explain “What did you get done yesterday?” to the Slackbot at the beginning of my day is not always a great feeling.
