I told them I donated money instead. Which is true. Not primarily for the sake of not giving gifts though. I didn’t want any gifts but still got some. I overheard the sentence “next year he’s not getting any gifts” and I am looking forward to it.
My “adopted” family (in-laws) and I have been heading in that direction and sending trial balloons for years.
This year, snacks, a pair of socks, and a couple bucks.
We got them gift cards for a restaurant we all adore.
We all are doing just fine, in our respective worlds. We’ve managed to stay geographically close, ish, and do holidays etc together at somebody’s house. That’s the important part.
Took me more years than it should have to realize that, but let’s say my wife’s family has taught me quite a bit over the years and largely changed my perspective on many things - this included.
I told them I donated money instead. Which is true. Not primarily for the sake of not giving gifts though. I didn’t want any gifts but still got some. I overheard the sentence “next year he’s not getting any gifts” and I am looking forward to it.
My “adopted” family (in-laws) and I have been heading in that direction and sending trial balloons for years.
This year, snacks, a pair of socks, and a couple bucks.
We got them gift cards for a restaurant we all adore.
We all are doing just fine, in our respective worlds. We’ve managed to stay geographically close, ish, and do holidays etc together at somebody’s house. That’s the important part.
Took me more years than it should have to realize that, but let’s say my wife’s family has taught me quite a bit over the years and largely changed my perspective on many things - this included.