Hiya girlies!
Today I’d love for us to share the little tips and tricks that you’re proud of, things that help you feel like the best version of you! It could be about anything, makeup, hair, hair removal, voice, mannerisms, diet, exercise, fashion, whatever you learned that had a positive impact on your life that could help another girlie learning who she wants to be!
Something I’ve been particularly enjoying recently is finding ladies I particularly admire in media and copying the things they say, trying to match their intonation and expression. I know it’s not an original idea but it can be super fun and very satisfying when you get it right! :3
Get your eyebrows shaped! They change the framing of your face so much and nobody ever talks about it.
Lately it’s been keeping my daily skincare routine and perfecting my haircare routine. Having soft smooth hair is my favorite and is worth the effort. I’ve also been experimenting a lot of with outfits and styles that I normally shy away from, and embracing my own femininity in a much more confident less shy way than I’m used to. You can tell that people treat you noticeably different when you’re overtly feminine, and I normally don’t pass but I feel like I have been more often since making these changes.
I spent years not giving a shit about my skin or my hair or my clothes, just kinda coasting along on hormones hoping one day I’d magically be the woman I wanted to be. Realizing that it takes actually loving my body and loving who I am was honestly a big step for me. So all the self care lately has me feeling so much better about myself. It’s a lot of work but the more I do it the more I find I really enjoy it.
gosh that skincare routine does sound super comfy! I definitely need to add that to my to-do list, thank you! <3
I’m curious about the acne treatment. My instinct has always been moisturize last.
I think the concern really is that you don’t want your skin to dry up in the area where you’re applying the acne treatment. It will depend on your skin type and whether your skin tends towards oily or dry, but in my case if I put my moisturizer on top then there’s already a significant barrier to my pores in the form of the acne treatment, kinda blocking it from fully moisturizing my skin in that area. Whereas, when I apply the acne treatment on top, the benzoyl peroxide is still effective at breaking down the acne causing bacteria without drying out your skin as much? I can only apply it once a day. If I do it twice, my skin dries out. For the occasional white heads I get, putting it on last has been quite effective.
have been eyeing an eye serum specifically to help with my dark eye bags
I’m a cis lady, so please let me know if I’m not supposed to post here, but I just wanted to share - I recently started using the Glow Recipe eye brightening cream and I’m honestly blown away. I’ve always doubted the efficacy of creams that can lessen dark undereyes but holy crap, this stuff is good!
Oh wow, yeah looking at some of the reviews and it seems like exactly what I’ve been looking for. My brightening serum has helped a lot, but my undereyes are stubborn. :P I just got a sephora gift card for Christmas, I’ll have to give glow recipe a shot :)
transfem tips 🥺 🥺 🥺
: Shea butter, cat meows and purrs, good tweezers. Good mantras, “you are a strong woman.” Acceptance therapy. Panty liners. Good underwear. Remember who you are and what you’re working towards. PMS effects trans people too.
If you have curly hair, follow the curly girl method!!! My hair went from a mess to being my most feminine features that makes others jealous.
how do I know for sure mine is curly?? I never tried to do anything so my hair was mostly straight, but when its wet, its kinda between 2a and 2b or something???
whats the curly girl method do you have resources on that
Googling gave me This
Never heard of the curly girl method, but I do have curly hair. I’ve basically been using this method for like a year and a half without realizing it, and it’s gone pretty well for me.
This is a decent introduction, but I’ll summarize the basics.
First, you want to avoid shampoo and conditioner with sulphates and silicone. These chemically relax your hair and build up over time. They work great for people with straight hair (i.e. the majority of the white population that beauty companies target), but not for people with curly or wavy hair. My products of choice for this are Shea Moisture Coconut and Hibiscus Curl and Shine Shampoo, as well as the Conditioner of the same range.
Once you have these, you want to cleanse your hair of any built up silicone. This will take quite a while (took a few months for me), because the other main thing to remember is that you should only really be washing your hair once a week. Most people with curly/wavy hair just don’t need to wash it as often as straight haired people. You should also only be brushing your hair while it is wet in the shower.
Then there is technique, which I’ve found isn’t as important but does help. When you dry your hair, you’re supposed to do a thing called “plopping”. You put a towel on a flat surface, plop your hair onto it, and then tie it up into a headwrap thing.
Finally, the rest of curly girl is just experience. You will get to know your hair and how much conditioner and care it needs. It takes a while but is very rewarding!
Also, another hair tip, for facial hair this time. Try out safety razors. Shaving with a safety razor gets the closest shave and is dirt cheap.
To shave, partially fill the sink with some hot water (as hot as you can manage (without scalding yourself obviously)), then wet your face with it. Exfoliate (using shaving soap is a great way to do this, since the brush doubles as an applicator and exfoliator). Then shave with the grain. Against will get a closer shave, but at the cost of bumps and razor burn. After some practice you can shave in just a couple of minutes with minimal artifacts.
It helps to have a razor with several aggression/closeness settings (e.g. Rockwell 2C or 6S) and switch to milder for across the grain. Or have separate razors for the first and the last pass (like Merkur 34C for start and Henson AL13 for finish).
With a good blade and a very mild razor it might take more passes across the grain but the upside is no nicks and most of the time no bumps.
As always, your mileage may vary because a lot of things influence shaving and it gets pretty individual ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Most of us tend to be top-heavy rather than bottom-heavy, so look for nice outfits that create curvature to counter that. For example dresses with sashes, coats that widen at the bottom, corsetry, etc. you generally want to avoid anything that straightens your silhouette. The aim is to give the illusion of fuller hips and a narrower waist.
But also remind yourself that most women (cis or trans) are not the pristine, soft-spoken, glammed up doll-like beauties the media likes to pretend we are! Women can be loud, women can be butch, women can be muscular (👀 be still my gay heart). Try not to be too hard on yourself.
(I’ve been trans for 10 years, ask me about anything!)
I’ll settle for being a cute, comfy mess hehe~
I am super looking forward to corsetry though, but I am a bit worried about my tummy, I’m slowly starting to see the effects of extra exercise but I’d really appreciate any suggestions you might have to help there!
