• eclectic_electron@sh.itjust.works
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        9 months ago

        Tipping is “not required” the way that not cheating on an SO is “not required”. No, you’re not going to get arrested for it, but that doesn’t make it okay.

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          9 months ago

          This is more like someone I barely know and never agreed to be in a relationship with getting upset about me seeing other people.

          If you agree to monogamy, it’s cheating and unethical for sure. If you don’t agree to monogamy, cheating isn’t even possible lol.

          So if I agree to pay the listed price of an item and then I pay for it in full…

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            9 months ago

            This is more like someone I barely know and never agreed to be in a relationship with getting upset about me seeing other people.

            But you did decide to walk into a restaurant and order, knowing full well that the employees there currently require tips to survive, yes? And you also understand that your single act of not tipping one person doesn’t change societal convention, it only hurts that individual worker?

            Your analogy is fraught. Let me revise it for you:

            This is more like someone I barely know and never agreed to be in a relationship with getting upset that I shit in their toilet without flushing.

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              9 months ago

              I never consented to any of it. And no, I don’t know what the servers make. I only know what I made as one at a specific restaurant like 15 years ago. My uncertainty is even more pronounced when I’m on vacation in an area I’ve never worked as a server.

              Can you please just let me know the actual price so I can agree to pay it or not. I just want all the information so I can make a decision. How much is the cheeseburger that says $10 on the menu? Ffs I’m hungry.

              But no, it’s like you’re afraid to give an actual price because you don’t want to risk limiting the hypothetical maximum you can scam out of some sucker.