Do ya’ll ever wonder if single family zoning, and car-centric urban planning, are some of the primary factors behind modern adults suffering from rampant loneliness? Two environments renown for fostering friendships and social activities are university campuses, and seasonal jobs in remote locations. What do those two things have in common? Proximity. People work, eat, and play together. In another word, community.

In my experience, humans are simple creatures. We take the path of least resistance. For your standard adult, the concept of traveling across town to meet up with friends after a full day of work or chores is exhausting. We crave those connections, but the barrier to entry is too high. We settle for whatever scratches that itch with the minimal amount of effort. Typically that involves some form of social media or other digital communication. It’s like grabbing that crappy packet of ramen because you ran out of groceries before your market day. It’s not really what you want to have for dinner, but it’s what is readily available so you shrug and eat it anyway.

This is all anecdotal and speculation on my part, but I’m curious if anyone else has any thoughts on this.

  • averyminya@beehaw.org
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    0
    ·
    6 months ago

    I’ve taken the bus and BART (train) to work for 6+ years and have had all of 5 conversational interactions between them, usually while waiting and not on the vehicle itself. I’ve definitely interacted with more people just standing outside a car in a parking lot, ranging from games and shows to just both being out.

    For the cast of BART, it’s just a really loud train, screechingly loud. Plus there can be weirdos and scam artists so it’s generally best to just keep to yourself there. For the bus I’ve had a few conversations, but they’ve mostly been recognizing people rather than spontaneous conversations.

    But that was mostly the area I grew up in as well. Some spots are very easy to meet people and talk with anybody and everybody, like aforementioned games, but then there’s other times where it’s definitely not ideal to be talking with strangers.

    Also, definitely not dismissing your view! Just what I’ve happened to notice around me as a carless person who is usually the one to strike up the conversations lol

    • Exocrinous@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      0
      ·
      6 months ago

      This isn’t asking cars vs trains, it’s asking car dominated neighbourhoods vs walkable neighbourhoods. You’re still on the car side of this divide.

  • candle_lighter@lemmy.ml
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    0
    ·
    6 months ago

    Not being able to leave my house without planning things around the schedule of my parents, and whether they even felt like driving, until I was 19 years old certainly didn’t have a positive impact on me.

  • tiredofsametab@kbin.social
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    0
    ·
    6 months ago

    I live in Tokyo and see a lot of people, particularly foreigners but also Japanese, complain about loneliness. We mostly use public transit, do not have zoning like that, etc. so it’s definitely not a cure-all to do just those two things (not that I think that was what you were saying).

    • CoreOffset@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      0
      ·
      6 months ago

      That’s a good point.

      Correct me if I am wrong, but I would imagine that in Japan the issue of loneliness cuts very deep due to the cultural and societal norms. I would also think that if you were to keep all those same norms but introduce in the car dependent design and infrastructure of the US then the problem would get even worse, no?

  • Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    0
    ·
    6 months ago

    I moved from a rural area to an urban area three years ago and I’m always blown away at how many old ladies chat me up on the bus. It makes my day so much brighter. Anecdoctal, but I figured I’d share.

    • Kepabar@startrek.website
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      0
      ·
      6 months ago

      No way. That would fuck over way too many people who are just trying to live out their lives in the home they’ve built/purchased/inherited.

      • doylio@lemmy.ca
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        0
        ·
        6 months ago

        So what about all the people who are being fucked over by not having access to affordable housing?

        Someone always gets screwed when policy is changed, we should make our decisions based on if the policy is better for collective flourishing in the long run

        • Kepabar@startrek.website
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          0
          ·
          edit-2
          6 months ago

          If your policy change is going to harm the less fortunate then you should re-evaluate the policy.

          A land value tax just shifts those who can’t afford it out of their homes and hands more land over to the wealthy.

          Land isn’t the problem with housing. The problem is that developers have figured out it’s more profitable to build fewer expensive properties than a large number of affordable ones. Not only do they have to do less work, but it keeps the market artificially low and so lets them charge more for what inventory they do have.

          So they do just that.

          And the residential development market has such a huge investment level to enter you won’t see many willing to roll the dice on mass producing affordable housing.

          Show me a home builder who has plans which are less than 3k sqft these days. You won’t find one.

          • doylio@lemmy.ca
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            0
            ·
            6 months ago

            developers have figured out it’s more profitable to build fewer expensive properties than a large number of affordable ones

            You’re right about this part, but you need to ask why is this the case. It’s due to (among other things) over regulation and a stifling of home building.

            Most cities in North America make it very expensive and difficult to build. Zoning laws means there are only a few places they can build densely, and red tape increases the cost of building. This has caused a huge mismatch of supply and demand for housing in cities. So of course in that environment, what is most profitable is to cater to the wealthy.

            If developers could build faster than demand was growing, they would satisfy the wealthy demands and then move on to less profitable middle and lower income housing.

            This is how all markets work in this context. Electric cars were initially only made for the wealthy, because those sales were the only ones that could be profitable for the emerging technology. Now that the tech has improved and the wealthy demand is satisfied, it has come down to middle class prices

  • SwingingTheLamp@midwest.social
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    0
    ·
    6 months ago

    I don’t think so.

    I know so. I’ve read a number of articles in recent years about how weak social ties are just as important as strong ones for happiness. This is just the first result from a search: Weak social ties are just as important as strong ones for greater life satisfaction

    Weak social ties are precisely the ones that get cut off by car dominance, what with driving across town to do everything in life, only mixing it up with strangers you’ll never recognize again instead of the usual bunch of neighbors. Between snout houses, online shopping, and drive-thrus, one could live a normal suburban life for weeks without interacting with anybody but coworkers and family. Now add work-from-home…

  • Showroom7561@lemmy.ca
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    0
    ·
    6 months ago

    car-centric urban planning

    Yes, this can absolutely contribute to weaker communities and fewer interactions.

    One of the things I noticed since riding a bike everywhere, is how much social interaction you have compared to a car. Even a quick chat with someone while you’re both stopped at an intersection is something that never happens while driving.

    But you really notice how awful cars have made things when our city shuts down a downtown road for an event, basically making it walkable. People are chatting with strangers, smiles everywhere, businesses get way more customers, etc. It’s just… better.

    Even the loss of meeting spaces within communities is a direct result of car-centric infrastructure. Quite a few urban planning YouTube channels have gone over this. But yes, cars are making us lonely.

  • sub_ubi@lemmy.ml
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    0
    ·
    6 months ago

    Only if you drive a boring car. Take a really cool car to the grocery store parking lot, and people walking in will stop and talk to you about it.

  • OpenStars@startrek.website
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    0
    ·
    6 months ago

    Ironically it’s a tool that could connect us more, but depending on how we use it, it may lead to us being disconnected. e.g. if you rode a bike, you could talk to people more, but ofc that depends on the circumstances in your area.

    • taladar@sh.itjust.works
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      0
      ·
      6 months ago

      Cars literally put a limit on how close things can be together so they physically could not connect you more than a dense walkable neighbourhood by their mere existence as objects with their physical dimensions.