An identity almost definitionally can change because it’s what someone identifies as. It’s not necessarily transphobic to believe that, again it’s all about letting people choose what makes them happiest!

It’s also fine to think that being trans is more than an identity, but that’s more of a theoretical or analytical (and complicated) discussion .

For political and simplistic purposes just allowing people to choose their identities has all the practical benefit we need.

Look, Identity is what u identify as. If you identify differently then that’s ur new identity. If You say you are a trans woman and had a femboy phase where you were in denial, than your identity is a tran woman who was always a trans woman but was previous in denial. That’s a valid identity.

So let’s say there is a amab who likes feminine things. They get rejected by geneeal society, but feels comfy in queer settings. But now people say: Hey! Ur trans! Take hormones it will make you happy! There’s two ways this can go, but if it wasn’t completly their own decision but peer pressure. And peer pressure which changes your body for live is extremely toxic.

I understand that you are mad that there wasn’t somebody who told you: Hey, you are an egg, just accept yourself as trans, its okay to be trans. I wish that it was that easy. But after starting hormones, sometimes there are doubt’s “what if I’m not really tans”? etc. And if you can push the decision to other people that just makes it worse. " I only started hormones because of the other person, she told me I would be happier. I’m not happier, I hate her"

Being trans is about taking your future, your body, your Identity in your own hands. Giving a big fuck to society and proclaim yourself to the world. Its not about saying “this makes you trans”, " that makes you trans", its about “this makes me happy”

And please write stop writing that aggressive. I’m attacking your post, not you as a person. I will probably stop responding because it stresses me out.