pretty quiet week this week if you ignore whatever the hell is going on with our bathroom toilet, which has a diagnostic issue we can’t troubleshoot and which has flooded once this week. calling maintenance once again to see if we can figure this out so i don’t have to plunge every third time we flush (ironically it’d be way easier if we just had to plunge every time–but it’s the times we don’t that make this extremely bizarre)

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    I just my shit kicked in by home insurance increases. It’s fucking dire down here in the gulf south. My escrow is currently equal to my principal + interest on mortgage. I have to start freelancing again outside of work hours again to make ends meet, not thrilled about that.

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    JESYS FUCK IT’S BEEN 3 FUCKING DAYS AND IT FEELS LIKE IT’S BEEN 3 YEARS.

    You might remember me posting a while ago about breaking up with my wife. That week does not even COMPARE to this week. I can’t mention a lot of it without a lot of people getting very angry, but maybe being angry would be an improvement over how things are now.

    Got drunk tonight because everyone thought the drama was over, and we wanted to wind down. Turns out no, it was not over, and we got smacked with all of it at once AND MORE while drunk and of course, dealt with it like drunk idiots and made it worse.

    So now it’s 6am. I haven’t slept. I won’t be sleeping. I feel like I’m gonna vomit. I gotta try not to make people angry tomorrow, people gotta try not to make me angry tomorrow. Nobody will succeed.

    What sucks is there’s a bunch of amazing stuff that happened tonight, too, but it was more than ruined by drunk idiots like me handling drama. Jesus I want it to be over so I can just appreciate all the good stuff that came out of this, but that’s gonna take a lot longer than just this week.

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    Super excited for tomorrow, gonna lose my virginity to that really nice and fun chef girl. She’s coming over to my place for a good few hours.

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      Oooh, this is exciting. Has been so lovely to hear all your updates about how things are going for you & this latest girl.

      Have a beautiful time!

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        It went pretty well, we didn’t end up having PIV sex in the end (but we did some other non PIV stuff which was very fun still) since my body was way more nervous than I mentally was, I just couldn’t keep it up as a result. Thankfully the girl is a saint and totally understands and is happy to see me again twice next week :).

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          Sounds kind of like my first time a couple years ago. Sex can be a great way to bond with awesome people even if it’s only for a night. I cant say I know your life, but if you take each experience as a bonding opportunity, you’ll have a fulfilling experience I tbink.

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    I’m out of town to help my parents move. Oh my god, my mom has so much shit. Especially kitchen stuff. Yes, she cooks (and cooks very well), but it’s not like she’s a passionate chef or baker who’s always cooking in her freetime, as like a hobby. Nor is she cooking to feed a family of 5. No, it’s just her and my dad, and my younger brother (who’s only just living at home temporarily again). My dad doesn’t have nearly as much stuff.

    It’s boomer-level conspicuous consumption at it’s worst.

    On the plus side, it’s my birthday today (as of this post). 37yo. What a weird age to be. It feels like no-man’s land. Gonna fly to San Diego for a few days to celebrate and enjoy. Off the rest of the week to do that. Rarely do the whole “birthday week” thing, but I needed a vacation.

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      Sounds like my parents’ kitchen. It used to be somewhat sensible, and my mother doesn’t have much interest in buying stuff for it, but my father will just appear with things for her.

      She’s finally got him to ease off a lot lately, but he’ll still try to persuade her to let him order things she doesn’t need or want.

      Happy Birthday vacationing!!

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        Thanks!

        Like I get having a house and wanting/needing to fill it. Or seeing something that you’ve always wanted and buying it, even if you don’t need it (for me, it’s games on Steam). But this is ridiculous. It took 4 trips with moving trucks (a 26’ [7.9m] and 15’ [4.5m]), plus numerous trips with their SUV. Hopefully my parents, especially my mom, will start going through it all and either getting rid of old stuff or consolidating. They have at least one more move once they buy their “final house” – god, that sounds morbid – but I said if they have the same amount of stuff or more, that I won’t help. It’s just too much to move.

        Though it’s an empty threat: I’ll still help them move 😒

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    I’m sorry to hear about your plumbing troubles! I hope you’ve made some progress since then.

    It’s been rough over here. I’ve been at my job four years and I’m making as much as the new hires. I have a hunch they’ll raise my rent in September so I really want to go to tech school and get out of retail, but finding anyone in my area who will treat ADHD is hard. Knowing my past, I think it’ll be a huge waste if I enroll without getting medicated first.

    The sun is coming out though, and I saw a Pink Floyd tribute show which was really fun. Good things will still pop up even if things get harder.

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    Fourth date with the chef girl went very well all this considered, we ended up having sex (non PIV since I was very physically but not mentally anxious annoyingly as I just couldn’t keep it up despite really wanting to and not feeling anxious at all mentally) which was amazing and she spent basically 5 or 6 hours at my place cuddling naked and doing stuff, then watched the bo burnham special ‘Inside’ which she is a big fan of. Quite good for my first musical.

    Thankfully the girl is very understanding about the performance issues since it was my very first time doing anything like this and she is happy to see me agan twice next week :). She is so lovely.

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    Today’s the third anniversary of my dad’s death. It’s still so hard.

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    On my way to a job interview that I’m really looking forward to. Got another less exciting one lined up afterwards. My current place is visibly going under, and I don’t plan to stick around for it.

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    “Everything is awesome! Everything is cool when you’re” checks notes “Drinking really nice scotch!”

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    Getting ready to go to my annual eye exam. My eye pressure is high enough that it needs annual monitoring, though I’m hoping to still be in the range where it’s not something I’ll need to manage with medication.

    We replaced our couch over the weekend; it was a hand me down from my mother in law that wasn’t really all that comfortable for our body shapes. The new one is much kinder to our backs, matches the dining furniture, and has a storage bay built into it to help with the floor space. The pup made a stink about losing his recliner that matches the old couch, mean mugging us until we brought his couch from the office out so he could still sit and watch nature tv. The cat took it immediately, but decided to share after a while.

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      Yay for comfier relaxation time, though I feel your pup is still glowering, even though you organised something suitable for you him. Probably just because you have the camera out, but am having fun with a little story about him ensuring his humans don’t try rearranging things without his permission in future.

      All the best with the eye checkup!

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        Yeah he’s definitely still scowling a bit - that’s his couch for napping on when I’m doing my office work, during which the cat was in my lap and he had the couch to himself. I’m not certain he appreciates having to share it now that it’s in a different room. And you’re not far off! The rest of the rearranging was done with him getting on every piece that was being moved as if to say “you’ll have to get rid of me too, hooman”.

        Thanks! Eyes are in relatively good shape!

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      Yes… eye pressure… me too. I have to go in periodically for an OCT and field. Hoping same. Best of luck.

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        You have my sympathy, friend. Hopefully your next appointment goes as well as mine did - not only is the pressure the lowest measured since starting my annuals, but my nearsightedness improved and my prescription doesn’t need to be as strong! Don’t get me wrong, they’d still be “coke bottle” lenses if it weren’t for high index polycarbonate, but it’s still a win in my book.

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          Actually my last visit last year had pretty good eye pressure. Hoping it is a trend not an anomaly. Just annoying, time consuming, and expensive to have to track as closely. Plus when your border line for maybe 5 years you wonder when things might get worse.

          Edit: My vision has been improving with age too for awhile now at least in terms of optical power.

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            Because of the monitoring nature of the exams, I’m able to submit the exam cost to my health insurance to cover what vision insurance doesn’t. This might be something you’re able to do as well to help defray some of the associated costs.

            And here’s hoping lower pressure is a trend for both of us going forward!

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    How are we already in the second half of February? Has this month absolutely flown by for anyone else?

    Busy week coming up, but mostly with events and activities that I’m looking forward to. Hope everyone has a good week!

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      It has for me. Had a weird start to the year which perhaps explains it, but last year hurtled past, and am still surprised we’re in the 2020s.

      What kind of stuff do you have planned for the week?

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        Having a night to meet up with some friends, got a day planned for volunteering at a local non-profit, and finally getting to dive into The Expanse book series, among all the day-to-day stuff!

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    My brother is home for reading week and we’ve been playing board games a lot! In other news, going to see a documentary in a theatre today. It’s called Your Fat Friend and it’s soemthing I’ve been looking forward to for a while

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    Sorry to hear about you sanitary sewer issues. They are the worst. Never had much issues myself until I moved in with my wife. Before then I lived in mostly newer and pretty well maintained apartment buildings.

    Since then it is always something. Every few years. Squirrel dropping a walnut in out stack. Roots in house main line. Long term buildup in various lines that need to be cleared. One bathroom toilet just not flushing that well… I think by design. Now a stinky sink drain.

    I sometimes wonder if all this low flow stuff makes things worse.

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      Similar suspicions on the low flow stuff. Feels like the plumbing at mine is developing various complaints, which are a little weird to troubleshoot, but maybe just that my energy is dire lately, so things feel harder than they would ordinarily.

      Besides that, it seems some fittings have been redesigned to be more complex than they need to be.

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    Apparently the universe doesn’t want me to have new headphones. The last ones snapped last year and the only pair I’ve got are good for basically first person shooters and not much else.

    Literally every single pair I’ve bought since has either been super uncomfortable or sounds terrible. Well, one pair was okay for both, which I didn’t realize at the time because I had no idea just how bad the next six (?) pairs were going to be.

    That one’s discontinued and out of stock now, though, so… cool, I guess. And I might be wearing rose-colored glasses here anyway and they did suck. Who knows.

    Doesn’t help that half the shit recommended online isn’t available or is extraordinarily expensive where I live. (Also, I’ve now learned not to trust recommendations for things as subjective as this.)

    I don’t need perfect. That’s always a bad approach. I know it sounds like I’m looking for perfect, but I’m not. I’m not an audiophile, but I at least want something which is pleasant to listen to (my sensitivity to treble and sibilants - sound in general, actually - has made several unlistenable).

    A compromise of sound, comfort, something that won’t break after a year, and within a decent price range would be great. Maybe I should just get something that will probably break after a year. At least if the sound and comfort is fine, it’ll be cheaper and easy to replace. Sure, I’ll have to keep doing it, but whatever.

    Man, what a bullshit materialistic rant this is. Apologies. It’s just becoming very annoying because I can’t really watch the things I enjoy or listen to the music I enjoy in a way that feels… well, comforting. Even podcasts sound bad.

    So the few things that give me comfort are now uncomfortable, which leads to my brain being all “lol, now’s the time to fuck with you”.

    I’m tired.

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      They are absolutely not cheap, but they are the last pair of headphones you’ll ever buy. When you hear the sound quality you’ll wonder how you ever lived without them:

      Sennheiser Consumer Audio Momentum 4 Wireless Headphones - Bluetooth Headset for Crystal-Clear Calls with Adaptive Noise Cancellation, 60h Battery Life, Lightweight Folding Design - Black ) https://a.co/d/8mxvyrJ

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        Super appreciate the response. Unfortunately, they’re not available where I live and buying from Amazon would be incredibly expensive with import duties and what have you.

        Still, thanks for the recommendation!

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        I couldn’t disagree more. I have the momentum 2 and paid 500 euro for it. Long story short don’t buy anything from Sennheiser they are not the same company any more. Planned obsolescence.

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          LOL. This is part of why my search has lasted this long.

          “Buy these. Best headphones.”

          “No, those suck.”

          Pandemic fucked everything up because I could go to stores and listen for myself (provided they’re actually available where I live), but since all that shit, they don’t really allow it anymore. Makes it doubly frustrating.

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            Wow I am part of your curse! Tell your first world problem spirit to leave me alone!

            😵‍💫 Go ahead get the Sennheiser

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      Stuff like this makes me feel it would be cool to organise a local “stuff club”, where people would bring things for others to try out.

      That alone isn’t going to motivate many to bother, but there could be a sell/exchange/donate facility, in lieu of using eBay or Freecycle, and so less stuff ends up in drawers unused.

      Guess it could hook in with local Makerspaces, tool libraries such as Men’s Sheds, or even regular libraries. If in alliance with Makerspaces, repair & modification sessions would be a cool extension.

      Ostensibly harder in smaller towns & in rural areas, but with less access to lots of physical stores, perhaps more demand for it?