• fidodo@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    I used to be like that, and the solution is to just power through and talk even though it’s hard. Taking is a skill and needs to be practiced like any other skill. Ideally you develop it as a kid when you have no self awareness and it’s expected for you to say weird awkward stupid shit all the time.

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      4 months ago

      I agree with you that talking is a skill that can be developed. I think it’s okay to encounter awkward situations because it’s gonna happen and it happens to everyone. Ideally, you learn how to handle or react to those situations eventually, imo. It should also be okay to be quiet too given the appropriate time. Why should there be a need for someone to talk all the time.

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        4 months ago

        Another benefit of listening more is that you become less self conscious as you realize other people are really weird and awkward too. Also, it takes two people to create an awkward silence, when you pay more attention to the conversation and less to yourself you’ll realize that you’re both creating the awkward silence, not just you.