• BolexForSoup@kbin.social
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    7 months ago

    Edit: Whoever downvoted me, fuck you. If the knuckles work for you, great, but they are objectively an ergonomic disaster.

    Holy hell dude it’s just magic internet points. How are you so worked up and how do you know that’s why you were even downvoted? It’s not that big of a deal. Highly recommend you take a day off or something to get recalibrated if that is how you react to one person downvoting you.

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      Hey, I took out some frustrations by making a couple cathartic edits about downvoters that can’t be asked to use words, because then I’d be able to retort about how wrong they are.

      If you think that wasn’t me “getting recalibrated” on this shit by doing something that amounts to little more than screaming into a pillow, then I don’t know what to tell you.

      Now get off that high horse, it’s clear that your inability to reach the grass from up there is making you feel far too superior to even realize when you’re being a patronising piece of shit who is farming upvotes, rather than helping anyone.

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        I imagine I could’ve been a little softer with that but man for real I would take a day off. That’s not a healthy way of handling things. The fact that almost 4 hours later you came back and edited your comment means you’re probably truly letting this stuff live way too long rent free in your head.

        Take it from someone who only recently kind of got it under control: flying off the handle on Internet forums is not a healthy way to operate. It will bleed into your daily life. I know this because I was doing it and I’ve only recently gotten it more under control. You’re not punching a pillow, you are screaming at people. There are people on the other side of your screen. And eventually you won’t need a screen to behave like that.

        Have a good one, truly. I urge you to think about this.

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          Not bad. A response like this and I would have treated you with respect from the start. The way I’ve done throughout these “4 hours” in other threads. That switch isn’t hard to flip, especially when I’m not as out of control as I pretend to be.

          But I’ve been keeping up with this thread since last night, sleeping, going to work, cooking… I ran a discussion thread on !dungeonmeshi@ani.social and much more.

          This stuff doesn’t bleed for me. I don’t get pissed from a comment online then tear into a friend on discord. I don’t have trouble keeping separate things separate.

          My very source of frustration is the lack of the kind of consideration you are showing now, the kind every person on earth should be capable of. My edits are screams into a pillow, because the only people who see them are the ones who either come back, or showed up after the people I made those edits in response to.

          The people who came across my edits and then decide “yeah, I’ll pile on” may not be the same people that sparked my frustration, but they are the very same kind that cause it.

          Face to face, we don’t deal with angry people the way we do online. In person we react with caution and empathy. Is that what happened here?

          Yes, I played into the unfortunate reality of how this works online for my own satisfaction…

          But your appeal for me to remember that there are people on the other side, is redundant.

          I didn’t forget that. I explicitly took aim at the type of person that does, and I don’t think I missed.

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            This is an incredibly unhealthy way to operate. What you just wrote was deeply concerning, not reassuring or demonstrating some kind of profound 4D chess. I’m not sure what else to say
            other than to reiterate how unhealthy this is, and how you need to take a step back. This isn’t introspective or clever, it’s a red flag. If you see a therapist, which I personally believe everybody should at least a few times in their life, I would urge you to show them your conversation in this thread and ask for their impressions. If not a therapist, maybe a good friend or a trusted family member.

            Hopefully one day the right person will tell you at the right moment and that will get through. Good luck out there.

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              Look at it like this.

              No one needed to take my edits seriously, or personally. I made them for me, for personal catharsis, to express something normally bottled up.

              But a lot of people saw them and thought, “lol a lunatic, let’s poke at it”. I knew that would happen, but it wasn’t the point, and I will never feel remorse for poking back when it did.

              It’s really not that complicated.

              I would urge you to refrain from trying to diagnose people over social media. You don’t have anything close to the full context of someone’s entire life. What actual problems they are dealing with, what coping mechanisms they’ve put together, or how effective they are.

              What if someone already has a therapist? What if you contradict that therapist? Yes, sometimes that’s necessary, but you better be damn sure about it, then.

              You could seriously interfere with someone’s care by commenting on this stuff like this.

              The only thing you can legitimately be an authority on is how my actions affected you. If you are looking to aid in someone’s self-improvement, sharing that is far more effective than displaying concern for their health, or commenting on care they might already be receiving.

              You cannot even begin to claim to know to how my actions affect me.

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                I didn’t call you a lunatic. I attempted to have a real discussion with you. Sure could’ve dropped the “holy hell,” I’ll admit that.

                What if someone already has a therapist? What if you contradict that therapist? Yes, sometimes that’s necessary, but you better be damn sure about it, then.

                You could seriously interfere with someone’s care by commenting on this stuff like this.

                You’re arguing no one is allowed to make suggestions or otherwise point out bad behavior.

                Anyway, we are just running in circles here. I’ve said what I wanted to say. Have a good rest of your weekend.

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                  The point is that there’s a difference in the environment.

                  Would you go “holy hell, you have a problem” when someone is high strung, and expect it to go down well in person?

                  Would you suggest to someone that they have a problem to the point of needing professional care, when they lose their cool for the first time in over a year? And that one outburst is your entire context?

                  There is literally nothing unusual about getting angry.

                  The only abnormal factor here is how people online react to someone when that happens, and dare to express it.

                  How is encouraging you to share how the behaviour of others affects you, an argument against pointing out bad behaviour?

                  What I said was, is that you don’t get to tell others how their behaviour affects them, only how it affects you.

                  “That makes me feel bad” instead of “That can’t be making you feel good”. The first one you can know is true, on the second, you are always guessing.