I’ve found the best solution is to actually dissect what went wrong. Strip the emotion out, and look at it as a chance to learn. This both lets you improve and pulls the teeth from the recollection. You just have to remember to actually draw a mental line under it. Once you have taken all you can, you have no reason to go over it again.
By embracing it, you rob it of its power. Without its power, it fades away.
E.g. I once called a teacher “mum”, in front of my whole class. At the time I just wanted to crawl into a hole and die. Now, it holds no power. It vaguely amuses me how much of a social Muppet I used to be.
I’ve found the best solution is to actually dissect what went wrong. Strip the emotion out, and look at it as a chance to learn. This both lets you improve and pulls the teeth from the recollection. You just have to remember to actually draw a mental line under it. Once you have taken all you can, you have no reason to go over it again.
By embracing it, you rob it of its power. Without its power, it fades away.
E.g. I once called a teacher “mum”, in front of my whole class. At the time I just wanted to crawl into a hole and die. Now, it holds no power. It vaguely amuses me how much of a social Muppet I used to be.