Idk, most people have things they find attractive/unattractive about people. If they specifically match with someone they find attractive, only to find out that the person has deceived them and they are actually unattractive (to them), I think it’s quite reasonable to express distaste about that.
Imagine the same scenario, but with smoking:
“In their profile they said they don’t smoke, but when I turned up to the restaurant they were smoking and their breath smelled like cigarettes! Yuck!”
Idk, most people have things they find attractive/unattractive about people. If they specifically match with someone they find attractive, only to find out that the person has deceived them and they are actually unattractive (to them), I think it’s quite reasonable to express distaste about that.
Imagine the same scenario, but with smoking:
“In their profile they said they don’t smoke, but when I turned up to the restaurant they were smoking and their breath smelled like cigarettes! Yuck!”
Would you consider that shallow and phobic?