Stop being a prick. Rape is a real fucking issue that should, could and is discussed in different ways and at appropriate times.
Dumping trauma on someone during a first date just means you weren’t ready for a first date and need someone to talk to (or you just don’t get social cues). No blame on the victim here - but it’s important to acknowledge that a guy making innocent small talk isn’t a dick.
I’ve already been exposed to the “trauma dump” narrative and know that it’s only used by shitty people who have fuck-all for empathy.
Case in point the first time I heard the term was when I got accused of “trauma dumping” because I was telling an interesting story about some fucked up shit that happened in my life, turned out the guy just didn’t want to hear about bad stuff happening in the world and didn’t care how anyone else felt about it. It’s literally just “shut up I want to feel good I don’t care about injustice in the world” like shit sorry for not being boring I guess. If you don’t like it you can just ask me to change the subject like a normal person without having to make it a moral crusade.
TL;DR people shouldn’t be socially punished for coming out about bad stuff that happened; doing so is sociopathically siding with evil.
You sound quite self centered, if not narcissistic, to be honest.
People have the right to say they don’t want to hear about trauma, and you have the right to not want to socialise with those people. That doesn’t make them sociopathic nor does it make you any less a victim.
But as for the actual topic covered in this conversation - most people would consider sharing traumatic events on a first date to be oversharing, possibly even antisocial, and people who do behave like the woman in this comic tend to find it harder to get 2nd dates. Not because of the trauma, but because of the oversharing and what that tells people about you. Rightly or wrongly, that’s society right now.
Not reading that, not even 1 paragraph in and you’re already trying to psychoanalyze me as having a mental disorder as a cheap method of delegitimizing my prospective. I fear if I continue reading beyond that point I might actually end up with one.
You’ve already outed yourself as a massive piece of shit, so i’m not going to engage you any further. Sorry, I don’t debate fascists.
Stop being a prick. Rape is a real fucking issue that should, could and is discussed in different ways and at appropriate times.
Dumping trauma on someone during a first date just means you weren’t ready for a first date and need someone to talk to (or you just don’t get social cues). No blame on the victim here - but it’s important to acknowledge that a guy making innocent small talk isn’t a dick.
I’ve already been exposed to the “trauma dump” narrative and know that it’s only used by shitty people who have fuck-all for empathy.
Case in point the first time I heard the term was when I got accused of “trauma dumping” because I was telling an interesting story about some fucked up shit that happened in my life, turned out the guy just didn’t want to hear about bad stuff happening in the world and didn’t care how anyone else felt about it. It’s literally just “shut up I want to feel good I don’t care about injustice in the world” like shit sorry for not being boring I guess. If you don’t like it you can just ask me to change the subject like a normal person without having to make it a moral crusade.
TL;DR people shouldn’t be socially punished for coming out about bad stuff that happened; doing so is sociopathically siding with evil.
You sound quite self centered, if not narcissistic, to be honest.
People have the right to say they don’t want to hear about trauma, and you have the right to not want to socialise with those people. That doesn’t make them sociopathic nor does it make you any less a victim.
But as for the actual topic covered in this conversation - most people would consider sharing traumatic events on a first date to be oversharing, possibly even antisocial, and people who do behave like the woman in this comic tend to find it harder to get 2nd dates. Not because of the trauma, but because of the oversharing and what that tells people about you. Rightly or wrongly, that’s society right now.
Not reading that, not even 1 paragraph in and you’re already trying to psychoanalyze me as having a mental disorder as a cheap method of delegitimizing my prospective. I fear if I continue reading beyond that point I might actually end up with one.
You’ve already outed yourself as a massive piece of shit, so i’m not going to engage you any further. Sorry, I don’t debate fascists.