I, for example, am very turned on by contrasts. So noticeable height differences, size differences (individual body parts or the whole package), skin tone, shapes, etc.

I kinda wish my wife (who’s very pale) were bi because I would love to see her have sex with a dark skinned woman that’s a similar height and weight as her, or a short, petite woman (she’s also tall for a woman).

  • Klnsfw 🏳️‍🌈@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    1 month ago

    A woman wearing a thin choker, like a lace choker or a thin choker with a small pendant.

    I’m not into BDSM, and I don’t link this with the meaning of being collared. I just like the esthetics of this kind of necklace.

  • Captain Aggravated@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    1 month ago

    On the subject of contrasts: You show me four women and I’d pick the one who is apparently different, every time. Three blondes and a brunette? Three brunettes and a blonde? Three sundresses and shorts and t-shirt? I’ll pick “the ___ one” every time.

    Thunderstorms. I am not aroused by thunderstorms, but they’re great fucking weather. I don’t know if it’s because it’s cooler, if it’s the background noise, the lighting, but my ideal sex scenario has a summer afternoon thunderstorm going on outside.

  • llamapocalypse@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Talent and passion. An otherwise-average woman who can, for example, play an instrument or write or dance beautifully sort of immediately becomes a 10/10 for me.

  • Ahornygirl@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Confidence without arrogance. Being able to assert yourself without being a douche or feeling the need “one up” everyone. Fake alpha bullshit is a huge turnoff.

    • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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      1 month ago

      Yay! I remember some guy on Reddit saying he would not date anyone with straight hair, he just was not into it. Only wavy, curly, or kinky hair did he find attractive. I can see the beauty in smooth flowing hair personally, but would not want it for myself, curly is livelier.

  • shneancy@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 months ago

    that’s where all of my sexual attraction comes from! I don’t really get people thirsting over a random pretty person being naked. But make that person dominant and caring and I’m down.

    I particularly enjoy those traits in potential sexual partners:

    Dominance, creativity, intelligence (if you’re smarter than me I’m already on my knees), size difference is also good, confidence, assertiveness, caring, simply being a nice person to be around & being able to be emotionally vulnerable.

  • ShunkW@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    1 month ago

    I love people who love things I do as well. A couple examples from recent memory: I love black metal and I was wearing a hoodie from an obscure band and this guy recognized the logo. We had a long talk about music and that was definitely a huge turn on. I also really love when people geek out about stuff, and I met a guy who’s a mechanical engineer and he was happy to talk about his job and all the things that go along with it.

    I guess I’m just describing having a personality.