I don’t mostly because I have a ‘replays in the middle of the night’ memory of using it in conversation with a black woman & she let me know exactly how it made her feel. Idk sometimes offense isn’t about history it’s just about how the random person next to you feels & the phrase isn’t so important to me that I can’t express the same thing in different words.
I’m struggling to think of a situation where I’d say that to a black woman but I can see how in hindsight it wouldn’t be the best turn of phrase. Obviously we should be aware of what we’re saying to an audience, but at face value it’s not a racist phrase and the lady was wrong to shame you for it.
Definetly your choice to make.
I don’t mostly because I have a ‘replays in the middle of the night’ memory of using it in conversation with a black woman & she let me know exactly how it made her feel. Idk sometimes offense isn’t about history it’s just about how the random person next to you feels & the phrase isn’t so important to me that I can’t express the same thing in different words.
I’m struggling to think of a situation where I’d say that to a black woman but I can see how in hindsight it wouldn’t be the best turn of phrase. Obviously we should be aware of what we’re saying to an audience, but at face value it’s not a racist phrase and the lady was wrong to shame you for it.