How would you have reacted to if the roles were reverse here (he snooped and found your porn if you had it)?

Not trying to sound prosecutorial, its simply helpful to start with your own feelings about your privacy and autonomy as an exercise here

Anybody got any, like, advice?

Quit nosing around on your dad’s computer?

Come to peace with the fact that your dad is an adult separate from his role as your dad. He might even drink or partake of the devils lettuce. He has dreams and aspirations separate from his responsibility to your family.

I’m in my 30s now, so perhaps I am out of touch with my younger self, but I don’t remember being bothered by the idea of my parents sexuality.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think it’s abnormal to be bothered by it. I’ve heard plenty of people joke about how gross it is that their parents had sex or whatever. I don’t really understand it exactly. I guess maybe it’s just an embarrassing subject!

Also, not to pile on, but don’t look at your poor old dad’s web history! What a nightmare! Lol

You just have to deal with it.

Whenever you’re out and about with your dad, and you see attractive women, point them out and make “innocent” comments about how attractive she is, and ask your dad’s opinion on them. Maybe drop a “MILF” (without saying “MILF”) in the conversation once in a while.

[you noticing a mom with her kid(s)]

You: Hey dad, she’s pretty hot, no?

Dad: [grumbles] yeah sure. I guess.

You: Not hard to believe she’s a mom.

[blank stare him for a few seconds before quickly changing the subject]

You could also sneeze once in a while, asking him if he has any tissues you could use. If he says no, you could respond, “surely you have tissues somewhere, no?” Blank stare him for a few seconds before changing the subject. Same thing with asking for any hand moisturizer.

But don’t come right out and say anything to him about it. You want him to sit uncomfortably with this nagging doubt that maybe you know, but maybe you don’t.

What is there to get over? I’m fifty. I have sex with my wife - I’m talking dirty, messy fucking sex, not thirty seconds of missionary. I masturbate. In lots of ways, I’m a fifteen year old with 35 years of experience. I think that’s most people. That’s just… life. Welcome to not being sheltered from it?

I don’t have any good advice, but I can relate. As a kid you only get one (very limited) view of your parents. Over time these awkward but eye-opening moments happen where you have to realize they are normal people, too.

If you really want some fun, hang out with your parents’ old friends and ask them for stories. You might learn more about your folks than you expect (or want).

Anybody got any, like, advice?

Be happy you didn’t find 250 home burnt DVDs of porn in the attic.

I was going through router logs (was not looking for anything, just exploring all the things in the router’s web interface) and I found all of my son’s porn search queries from his 3ds.

Heh. Used my brothers browser. Started typing in the search bar. Got a list of urls I’d rather not mention. Just went downstairs and asked him to clear his history and switch off recommendations before powering down.

An example of why the phrase “Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to” has wisdom.

You could monitor each other’s porn use like the US Speaker of the House and his son. 🤢🤮

Now you have a new porn pal.

There are two types of men, in my experience:

• The 99% who watch porn.
• The 1% who lie about not watching porn.

If your father is a male, he watches porn, basically.