Ugh! Unwanted delivery of old photographs. Have cut up and binned all the naked kid ones. 70s parents and boundaries, what?
I think I have 3 photos of when I was a kid, parents just didn’t care, they were too busy taking photos of the favourite kids.
My ex-MIL had such a weird obsession with having a photo of all the grandkids together in the bath. So so weird.
Oof brutal.
My mum has stolen all the photos, and threw out the ones that gave her “bad vibes”; if there were any of me in the nude, she would have long since burnt them I reckon ahha
I have no photos of me when I was a kid, and I know HEAPS were taken, and dad doesn’t have any that he took of me or our cats. But to get them, if they still exist, I’d have to contact mum, and that’s just not happening. She can rot with her memories.
Boyo has zero photos until about 23 for many many Reasons. I’ve got loads, and did not need these repugnant ones. Do not take pictures of kids on toilets FFS!
Yeah, I don’t get taking photos of kids on the loo or in the bath. Especially with how social media is these days.
So gross 🤢
I’ve got photos of my kid in the bath. He has such a happy look on his face its impossible not to take a photo. But its pretty easy to shoot the pic from above the waist too!
“Kid” is older than 5? Yeah that’s weird.
If we’re talking baby photos though, I’ve got a dozen or so photos of the kids when they were babies/toddlers naked. Not with bits showing, and not shared to social media.Is that not normal?
These were bits out. My opinion of infants tends to offend, these pics being me made them even more distasteful.
I have footy tickets tonight, but I’m not going to use them. I’m tired, have a headache and my face has slowly filled with snot throughout the day.
I swear I was moderately healthy this morning!
hugs
maybe you can sell the ticks?
It’s alright. I’m an AFL member, so they didn’t cost me much. Just a bit put out to lose my plans
Some sort of major kerfuffle down at the shops. At least 4 cop cars and the helicopter was out earlier.
Armed siege apparently. Which makes the huge number of rubber neckers standing at the tape lines taking pictures even more disturbing.
Wtf. I’m not a fan of this stuff. Can it stop happening for 5 fucking seconds? Seriously
Help me choose.
Budget: about $500
I need one wool coat + one puffer (do I though?)
With puffers, its between Uniqlo (cheap), Patagonia (because brand quality and their customer service), and The North Face Nuptse (unsure between this and the 'Gonia).
With Woolen overcoats, I have no idea! If I get an expensive overcoat then I’ll have to go with a Uniqlo puffer, but again, I’m not sure if I really need a puffer?
Help please 😔
To throw a spanner in the works my current go to (with a long underlayer) is a lightish jumper (usually woollen) and a shell jacket that doubles as a raincoat over the top. Super efficient at keeping out the wind and easy to pack down. I walk everywhere so it’s heaps warm enough the wool jumper is warm for inside.
Other than that I would go puffer first for packability (I love my pea coat but rarely wear it now)
I have one of each. Long wool coats protect your bum and legs from the wind, but have to be drycleaned, brushed of hair or lint and protected against moths. Puffers are more practical and portable but cover less of you, and depending on filling may also have to be dry cleaned (in the case of down).
The trench coat I have is op shop and the puffer is Kmart so both came in well under budget.
If you really can’t choose you could start with a cheaper puffer to get an idea of it while you continue saving. Then if you don’t like it you can donate it and buy something more suitable
everyone raves about uniqlo.
I’ve got a wool welders jacket that’s basically sat in retirement since I got my puffy. I’d start with the puffy and then reassess your needs. I do sometimes wrap a blanket round my waist like a towel to keep my midsection (kidney) warm if I’m tinkering in the shed on winter nights.
Here are some deals in my inbox this morning:
https://www.ozbargain.com.au/node/854646
https://www.ozbargain.com.au/node/854668
There was a BCF one that said expired, but that could be the extra $20 off
Go to Kmart and get something else warm for $30 and go for a nice meal instead
I’d say get a puffer, much more versatile esp if you don’t drive as it’s lighter and easier to pack down/carry around if it gets warm. I almost never wear my trusty old wool jacket now.
Best option is get a Patagonia/North Face/Macpac etc while on sale. You might’ve missed the sales but have a look online anyway. I bought mine from Wild Earth
I used to have a long down puffer with a detachable hood, it was the warmest coat. Make sure if you have a long puffer it has press studs as well as a zip. Woolen hat to cover ears and forehead, scarf to cover neck and face if need, thin gloves or double gloves.
You can get end of season puffers from overseas sellers .
Sometimes when it’s cold here in Melbs I put on a roomy lined wind proof raincoat and have warm jumpers underneath
As an overweight person, the overcoat I have looks a lot smarter and more flattering than my puffer, which when zipped up is cosy as but makes me look like a liquid paper pen.
Miss Seagoon would call me a sausage
Good night everyone. Stay warm. 😘
Ironically I was too warm to sleep last night
Breakfast 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋
Slap me with a splintered ruler
my lord it is eight in the morning
Lamb chops and lollipops please - with coffee, lots of coffee.
Also, when is the food truck enterprise starting up? Do we know yet which locations?
🐑🍭🍭☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️
Next week. We will be everywhere and nowhere.
Could you feed the cats for me? Really don’t want get out of warm bed.
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Hopefully this will stop the pitiful mewing for 5 minutes.
Wild-caught horse butt stew thanks
Came across a short on youtube of a customer asking a baker for grass-fed salmon on her bagel. Wtf?
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Gratitude thread.
I’m grateful that there is so much love in my life. So much more than that one person could’ve given me. Love is everywhere. The food we eat, the beautiful skies, people, sounds. Even though at times I still feel pangs of shitty feelings from the hostility he probably feels towards me, I am able to remind myself that my life is so much better without that person in it.
I’m grateful for you lot. Although I don’t comment very much, I love checking in here each day. Love the camaraderie and chit-chat, and the support that is offered when people need it.
I’m grateful I get to return home soon (Tuesday, hopefully)
I am very grateful FaceBastard didn’t exist when I was a kid.
And for fluffy socks.
The amount of dumb stuff I would have posted if social media was a thing when I was a kid…
I used to post song lyrics and quotes from famous people on my FB, between 2006-2010 (14yo - 18yo).
Now I do that here instead 😂
I’m just happy to be here
I’m alive. I’m not struggling. My daughter is happy and healthy. I can do the things I love.
That was nicely said. I’m grateful for the roof over my family’s heads, a split system that’s in good working order and for it being Friday! Sooo tired!
So I sat my wife down and expressed VERY clearly that we are NOT getting involved in that thing earlier this week. So whats she doing this weekend? You have GOT to be fucking kidding me.
Let her. Just don’t get involved yourself. This gives you “I told you so” rights when she comes home exhaustipated and emotionally vulnerable. However, you may not wish to exercise those rights in the interests of family harmony.
Best if she discovers for herself that you can only help those who want to be helped. Let this one slide past without getting yourself involved I think. Just have some comfort for her ready when she gets back. Maybe cook dinner and do all the kid things while she’s busy elsewhere.
This is the latest in a long line of “I say this is a bad idea, Mrs Break says “yes” then does EXACTLY the bad idea thing”. Think we’re gonna have a sit down conversation about this. She’s absolutely entitled to do whatever the hell she wants, but each time makes it a little bit tougher to trust her judgement.
It’s really important you don’t make her feel bad or stupid, you have to keep her trusting you. Don’t let the situation get to a place where she starts doing things in secret.
Fuuuuuuuuuck that
Yeah I’m staying RIGHT out of it, and the second it affects the kid shes in a world of trouble.
Is she taking the kid with her? If not, then it’s her problem what happens. Maybe volunteer to have the kid yourself all day so no pressure on her. If she wants to take the kid with her - fight like hell to stop that. No one sane takes a kid into a toxic situation.
It has occurred to me that maybe mrs break wants to sit down with someone that isn’t going to criticise her and have a good whinge about life the universe and everything and especially MEN with someone who sounds like an olympic grade whinger themselves. Best to stay right out of that one for your own sanity. Take your kid to the park and build a happy memory instead.her intention was to take the kid yes.
her plan was I think she didnt really want to take my word on something as serious as this and really wanted to assess for her own judgement which look I understand that, but the original comment from me was we needed to take some space. It wasnt “lets never hang out” it was just a “deffo not this weekend”
Was contacted by another place to move forward into the interview the process.
Just emailed the other recruiter to get a feel for what’s going on with this offer.
Let’s see what happens.
Ahhhh yessss! Fantastic! You’re awesome!
Thank you!! Now it’s 2 more interviews next week. Maybe things are looking up. I dare hope…
Wow! Great work! You’re killin’ it, bro!
I switched private health people and then the old ones want me back and now I am all confused because they seem the same but then I think ‘I don’t heart and vascular now…or do I?’
Being an adult sucks.
On the other hand, a school reached out to me and want me to be part of their celebrity reader thing they’re doing. Me, a celebrity. Absolutely wild, lol.
I’m not sure how, but I’m still down on Medibank under a corporate plan from a company I worked for 20 years ago. It’s something amazing, because despite costing a fortune, nobody has ever come close to matching it. I’ve had multiple Medibank employees tell me over the years not to mess with it because I won’t get that good a deal again.
This amazing deal is just under $250/Mo for the four of us. 😞
I don’t know if you have extra built into that but if I was sign up to a moderate leve of cover plus extras that’s about 240 for me alone.
250 for a family of 4 sounds like a dream.
It’s called “Bronze Plus Assured Hospital and Essential Extras 75”
It’s pretty basic cover I think.
That’s amazing! Well done mate 🍻
Thanks!
I am having this strange phenomenon, where:
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If I think I need my laptop and bring it with me, but then not end up using it.
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If I think I don’t need my laptop and left it home, then I end up needing it.
Yep, a few of you might remember that a few months ago, I had to file a claim using just my phone 3 hours before a flight lol… Might be time I get a Bluetooth keyboard of some sort.
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There’s a very real possibility that I’ll need to confront probably my most important life decision ever soon. I’m trying to mentally prepare myself for the possibility of having to even consider it. If I do need to, I need to find a way to be at peace with that decision.
It’s a doozy too.
adding spoiler tag as the subject could be sensitive for somebody struggling with fertility
“Would I be ok never having a biological child of my own if it meant finding great love and joining an established family?” As someone who already feels like an outsider, would I ever feel like I belong? Am I willing to accept that my life never has a chapter of having and raising my own child if there is potentially an option/scenario where I could? Would I resent my decision?
Heavy stuff. Like I said though, it’s not something I need to confront right now but there’s a possibility that it might come up, so I should probably get my head straight about the concept so I know where I stand.
Anyway… almost weekend time woo. I think I might have a drink or two this afternoon.
This one is tough. I don’t believe I’d have had the strength to do it before I had kids. I really wanted to be a dad and I wanted my “own” kids. The idea of forming a relationship with a single mother was also mega daunting to younger me.
But now that I’ve gone the traditional route, I could absolutely imagine the “other path” to happiness. I can recognise that I’d have loved it had I met my wife and kids as a package and joined the family. I don’t love them because they have my DNA. I love them because they’re my kids.
It’ll depend on the age(s) of the kid(s), but to a kid is under 5, they won’t remember a time before you were in their life. You won’t be an outsider, you’ll just be “dad”.
got a mate struggling with fertility and I gave him some advice recently about this. Course I’m giving it from a VERY privileged position, so feel free to disregard. Once you hold your kid in your arms, you wont give a fuck how you got there, cause it simply doesn’t matter. Biological or not wont matter for shit.
the newborn stage fucking sucks too ey. no one actually talks about that part, cause if we were honest no one would ever have kids.
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I’d say if you like the woman and get along with the kids go for it. As far as resentment and/or feeling like an outsider, you can walk away if its not working out, maybe feeling like an outsider is the price of that freedom.
Hm, that is a doozy. Only you can answer that one, I think. Be true to yourself.
I know for some, having their own biological children is important to them, and for other’s, less so. It’s also important to consider what these Hypothetical Step-Children (HSP (lol)) think as well.
But finding love is hard, and like with all choices, there’ll be pros and cons with whatever is picked.
You don’t have to decide right now, so take your time and see what happens 🤷♀️
Where there is great love there is family.
Blood ties is not the same as love, I have seen it. 😔
TV Review. Indian Police Force. Amazon. A Hindi-English series about a counter terrorism unit in Delhi. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indian_Police_Force_(TV_series)
This is a pretty good show, it fairly accurately depicts terrorism and counter terrorism in a modern country. It does have some Indian tradition story telling regarding the personal lives of the main characters, there was a dance/singing scene! but it wasn’t out place.
Melburnian here so when the power goes out in the Delhi apartment of the terror cell I’m all like" Youse guys are fucked, Special Ops is outside your door " But no, it’s just a power outage in a capital city for no reason, no storms. It’s India.
The military theme music is a little cringy but it’s ok. The graphics and special effects are good. So many pairs of Rayban Aviators. Only 10% of the men have a moustache.
And approx 10% of special forces is women, which is sorta in keeping with the rest of the world.
I give this 4 hobbits.
( I do miss Irrfan, when he smiled he would light up the room. )
Ooh reminds me of hotel Mumbai. That’s a good movie too if you haven’t seen it
I have not seen it, will put it on the watchlist. 😎
Unpopular opinion: Prosecco is overrated. Tastes like hairy balls. There’s so much better out there.
imo, prosecco is as revolting as pinot gris
Prosecco is good for making spritzes, that’s it. Limoncello spritz, mmm!
Agree
Agreed. Fuck Prosecco and everyone who likes it
spoiler
Ok not everyone who likes it. They’re okay. Mostly.
Oh dear.
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You haven’t had good Prosecco, methinks. That, or you don’t have it when you’re drunk enough. Tsk tsk lol
Maybe. It was a Brown Brothers. It was dry and tasteless like soda water.
We had a quick chat. We both apologized, she thought she was doing the right thing (in her own way) but now understand how it may have seemed like she was kind of just ignoring me. We’ve promised to try listen to each other more.
Communication can be so easy to mess up, especially when you’re new parents.
Here’s my 2 cents for what it’s worth:
People make mistakes. They always will. It can be frustrating, especially when the stakes can be quite high.
But, the most important thing we can do when someone close to us makes a mistake, is to forgive them. Without strings attached.
Without recriminations. Without “I told you so’s”. If there are harmful consequences from our loved ones to error, we begin to keep things to ourselves. To stop communicating for fear of causing strain.
That doesn’t mean there aren’t consequences for mistakes. But they must be wrapped on patience and forgiveness.
We can only hope to do the best we can in this crazy world.
/end rant