It pained me to discover that my brother liked one of his books in 2020. I’m very careful to not stress our relationship because he’s otherwise a decent person. I shudder to think what other content he might expose himself to over time and what that will mean for our relationship.
I read one of his books before i knew who he was, and found although the advice was mostly common sense (if a bit context free) advice, followed by long rants about traditional family’s, and backed up by bible. I found myself thinking “what about behaviourism research?”, you know there has been progress in the last 100 years. I’m ashamed that the traditional family shit didn’t tip me off.
I’ve found him come up in my google feeds often too, It’s insidious.
In terms of convincing your brother about how off this guy is, generally there are how to approach things on line (i.e. you can’t always take a logical approach). I’ve also encountered this kind of thing in my extended family, I’ve got distant aunts that likely voted for trump, and they are otherwise decent people (i.e. not racist, and supportive).
It’s a wild statement to insinuate that your family voting for Trump somehow makes them bad people. Likewise, Peterson has some decent advice that I think should not fully be written off due to his personal life.
I haven’t really seen anyone in this thread disqualify his argument based on merits and only using their own feelings to say he’s wrong.
In all honesty, I don’t have a horse in this race, but I don’t think Peterson is a terrible as everyone seems to think. Maybe I’m crazy
I mean, just voting for Trump doesn’t objectively make you a bad person… That’s the definition of being subjective. Also, I’m confident in my intelligence, please don’t make lemmy the dumpster fire that is Reddit.
I’m not saying that Trump is a good person, again this is a discussion of Peterson, but one could argue that aside from Trump’s character he wasn’t the worst president the US has had.
Your argument is purely semantic and not really substantive unless you define what a “bad person” is. That’ll be different to everyone, so without a common operating definition of a “bad person” your point, while technically true, doesn’t really mean anything.
You cool with him shilling for fracking billionaires now too?
most of his “good advice” is just bland generic shit. the awful shit he puts out there far overshadows the generic advice that you could get from mister rogers
Seriously. I don’t understand this shit, I’ve even heard this kind of “good advice” garbage about Andrew Tate and “work ethic”. Are you telling me you can’t find a single other person in your chosen field to look up to? You can’t come up with your own personal advice through observation? Why are all these young dudes so desperate to idolize someone?
Voting for for trump does make them worse people, they are objectively supporting a racist. Trump family stole money from childrens cancer charity. That’s bad.
Likewise I didn’t write off Peterson for his personal life I wrote him off cause his arguments are rooted in the bible.
Really what makes peterson and trump so bad is that they are completely self centered, and self gratification is their only goal. They care about nobody else.
because he’s otherwise a decent person. I shudder to think what other content he might expose himself to over time and what that will mean for our relationship.
Maybe he’s wondering what content you’re exposing yourself to, as well? i think it’s time you guys talk, but on one condition; To not be easily offended.
i’m wondering; would he feel offend by you, or you feel offended by him?
How does liking a book make your brother any less of a decent person? I assume it’s 12 Rules for Life, as that seems to be the book Peterson best know for. From Wikipedia, these are the rules. Nothing here seems vile or like something that should make you question your brothers decency.
“Stand up straight with your shoulders back.”
“Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.”
“Make friends with people who want the best for you.”
“Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.”
“Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.”
“Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.”
“Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient).”
“Tell the truth – or, at least, don’t lie.”
“Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t.”
“Be precise In Your Speech.”
“Do not bother children while they are skateboarding.”
Wait. He wants us to believe that he is intelligent? I’ve known toddlers that have an easier time getting words out.
I thought his whole shtick was portraying himself a bumbling idiot to bring out the hyperemotional crazies who get worked up about people not being just so? It is always fun watching the hyperemotional crazies.
I believe the lobster bollocks is actually Rule # 1. ‘Stand up straight’ or some shit (which lobsters also do not do because, well, they are lobsters).
I have read the book yes, and the lobster stuff is in chapter 1 indeed.
I don’t think that chapter was particularly enlightening, as far as I remember it was mainly about how evolutionary selection results in hierarchies in al species (hence the lobsters), and standing up straight gets you higher in the hierarchy because of something something confidence.
The evolution stuff is not wrong, and the stand up straight is… Eh… weird psychology stuff? However it didn’t mention women or gays as you said.
And how do you understand “hierarchies” in the context of human sociology?
Your message is notable in that it’s the first time I have realised that his readers may not even be reading this drivel at the level at which it was written, which is already laughably stupid.
It sounds like you are the one who believes the only hierarchies that exist are ones of race, gender, or sexual orientation. When I’ve heard Peterson talk on the topic he talks about hierarchies of competence, which has nothing to do with that other stuff.
It’s a 400 page book, I posted what amount to chapter titles. Everything sounds generic at that high a level.
I don’t know how good it is, as I find his writing too verbose to really consume, but clearly his popularity for his kind of stuff (and not the political stuff) is something people are looking for and feel they need. They either aren’t getting it from other places or it’s not packaged in a way that speaks to them.
If it helps some kid clean themselves up, get a career, and get out on their own, and generally get their life together and pointed in a better direction, how is that a bad thing?
If it helps some kid clean themselves up, get a career, and get out on their own, and generally get their life together and pointed in a better direction, how is that a bad thing?
A lot of sects can help you clean yourself up and get your life together. Is it a good thing if you’re being brainwashed into strange believes (like transphobia) at the same time? Maybe it still is but maybe there are better ways to help people.
Sometimes you can hear the same thing 100 times, but when someone frames it in a slightly different way, or just uses slightly different words, it clicks.
Some people have found Ryan Holiday’s books on Stoicism to be helpful, but all he’s doing is retelling Meditations and it’s lessons with a more modern voice. Should we tell him to stop writing? I don’t think so.
The books, videos, etc about getting your shit together aren’t full of transphobia, they’re about getting your shit together. One person can speak on different topics. Even the trans stuff, it all started as a free speech thing, when the Canadian government made a law telling people how they had to speak. That’s what he took issue with, not trans people. Things may have spun out of control from there for various reasons, which isn’t a debate I’m interested in having.
Have you read my comment? I’ve said that maybe it’s good but maybe you can teach those things in a better, less toxic and less sectarian way. I don’t have issue with his old teachings but I think following anyone blindly is stupid and with JP from the very beginning I’ve seen a lot of it.
Have you read my comment? I’ve said that maybe it’s good but maybe you can teach those things in a better, less toxic and less sectarian way.
Yes, I read your comment, that why my reply was about the value of hearing the same things from different sources and in different ways, because you never know which one will click for a person. I don’t see how Peterson saying “clean your room and here is why” is any more or less toxic than a mother yelling at her kid to clean up their room. What his version included was the why, so you’re not cleaning just to clean it or appease your mom, but for a reason that can help other areas of life. I’m keeping the messages separate and not infusing everything he ever posted on Twitter into a college lecture from 10 years ago, as those things were completely separate, and I’ve never follow him on Twitter or read any of that stuff. I have watched some videos of lectures from his psyche class on YouTube, just like I’ve watched countless other things on YouTube, I don’t idolize any of them. When I see a news article about something he posted on Twitter, my response is usually one of, “huh, that was weird…” I don’t run out and start trying to kick people out of bathrooms; that’s something a crazy person would do.
I agree that no one should be followed blindly. I also think that people are imperfect, and we shouldn’t throw away everything they’ve done because they have an unpopular opinion, or have said things inelegantly, in some other areas of their life. We should be able to hear what someone says and say, I agree with X, but not with Y, so I’ll leave Y behind and integrate X into my life. We all do this every day. That’s what it means to not follow someone blindly. Those who agree with 100% of what anyone says aren’t thinking for themselves.
I agree that there are a lot of resources to learn things from, but for whatever reason, the way he frames certain things is working for some people, where other things haven’t. I feel like I’ve said this several times now and it keeps getting ignored. We can’t always wait for the perfect source of information, it might never come or not show up at the right time. For example, I was curious why he always skirted the question about if he believes in god, so I watched some of his lectures on the bible. It took 6+ hours for him to get it out, which could have been a 15 minute TED talk, so I wouldn’t really recommend it (it wasn’t an easy watch), but I understood his point, it made sense, and it changed the way I think about “god”. I still don’t believe in an actual god, but I can now understand where the idea likely came from and the value of something akin to god in a society, even if it’s been co-opted by people seeking power at various points in history. Maybe I could have heard that somewhere else, but it’s been many decades, and gone down many religious rabbit holes, and it took those lectures for me to put that mental model together. Growing up in a religious family I have a lot of issues around god and the church, and I think if I had heard those lectures, or those ideas, when I was much younger it would have been extremely helpful. Hearing it now is still helpful as it provides me a more nuanced view of the issues, rather than just “religion == bad”, which is where a lot of people land. Maybe somewhere, someone else is saying something similar, but will I ever chance across it? If I do, would I have been able to understand it in the same way? Probably not. Did any of the stuff he talked about in those 6+ hours have anything to do with divisive politics? Nope.
It looks like you believe I have some issue with you personally finding some value in Peterson’s writing. I don’t. You’re basically paraphrasing the same thing I’ve said. Can his writing help people? Yes, probably. Can you approach it in a healthy way, avoiding the toxic part and not becoming part of a cult? Yes, I’m sure it’s possible. Did most people approach it like this? Well, my sensation is that no, they did not. The community that grew around him became part of the right wing toxic masculinity and transphobic movements. And he never renounced it, it keeps playing a right wing guru. So yes, I don’t have any issue with people that read some of his books and found something valuable in them. But I also believe (and I think most people that are against him think the same) that he did more harm than good overall and that the world would be better without his philosophy. But of course it’s impossible to measure, it’s a subjective point of view and you can disagree.
It pained me to discover that my brother liked one of his books in 2020. I’m very careful to not stress our relationship because he’s otherwise a decent person. I shudder to think what other content he might expose himself to over time and what that will mean for our relationship.
I read one of his books before i knew who he was, and found although the advice was mostly common sense (if a bit context free) advice, followed by long rants about traditional family’s, and backed up by bible. I found myself thinking “what about behaviourism research?”, you know there has been progress in the last 100 years. I’m ashamed that the traditional family shit didn’t tip me off.
I’ve found him come up in my google feeds often too, It’s insidious.
In terms of convincing your brother about how off this guy is, generally there are how to approach things on line (i.e. you can’t always take a logical approach). I’ve also encountered this kind of thing in my extended family, I’ve got distant aunts that likely voted for trump, and they are otherwise decent people (i.e. not racist, and supportive).
It’s a wild statement to insinuate that your family voting for Trump somehow makes them bad people. Likewise, Peterson has some decent advice that I think should not fully be written off due to his personal life.
I haven’t really seen anyone in this thread disqualify his argument based on merits and only using their own feelings to say he’s wrong.
In all honesty, I don’t have a horse in this race, but I don’t think Peterson is a terrible as everyone seems to think. Maybe I’m crazy
Objectively it does.
Or just dumb.
I mean, just voting for Trump doesn’t objectively make you a bad person… That’s the definition of being subjective. Also, I’m confident in my intelligence, please don’t make lemmy the dumpster fire that is Reddit.
I’m not saying that Trump is a good person, again this is a discussion of Peterson, but one could argue that aside from Trump’s character he wasn’t the worst president the US has had.
So voting for someone that is not a good person doesn’t make you a bad person?
What is subjective about two impeachments several indictments, incitement to violence, a history of sexual assault?
Stupid people are often confident in their intelligence.
It definitely does.
That is completely irrelevant to the subject about whether voting for Trump objectively makes you a bad person though.
Your argument is purely semantic and not really substantive unless you define what a “bad person” is. That’ll be different to everyone, so without a common operating definition of a “bad person” your point, while technically true, doesn’t really mean anything.
You cool with him shilling for fracking billionaires now too?
most of his “good advice” is just bland generic shit. the awful shit he puts out there far overshadows the generic advice that you could get from mister rogers
Seriously. I don’t understand this shit, I’ve even heard this kind of “good advice” garbage about Andrew Tate and “work ethic”. Are you telling me you can’t find a single other person in your chosen field to look up to? You can’t come up with your own personal advice through observation? Why are all these young dudes so desperate to idolize someone?
Voting for for trump does make them worse people, they are objectively supporting a racist. Trump family stole money from childrens cancer charity. That’s bad. Likewise I didn’t write off Peterson for his personal life I wrote him off cause his arguments are rooted in the bible.
Really what makes peterson and trump so bad is that they are completely self centered, and self gratification is their only goal. They care about nobody else.
I’m sad COVID didn’t kill them.
Maybe he’s wondering what content you’re exposing yourself to, as well? i think it’s time you guys talk, but on one condition; To not be easily offended. i’m wondering; would he feel offend by you, or you feel offended by him?
How does liking a book make your brother any less of a decent person? I assume it’s 12 Rules for Life, as that seems to be the book Peterson best know for. From Wikipedia, these are the rules. Nothing here seems vile or like something that should make you question your brothers decency.
I cannot understand how you folks who love to defend this cretin can overlook this utter malarkey and focus on ‘make your bed’.
If he was as bad as you say you wouldn’t need to make stuff up or willfully misinterpret him in order to discredit him.
People are complicated. Just because you disagree with someone on one topic doesn’t mean everything they’ve ever said is bad.
Look at some of his old tweets. He’s racist and not as intelligent as he wants you to believe. It’s not complicated in this case.
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Wait. He wants us to believe that he is intelligent? I’ve known toddlers that have an easier time getting words out.
I thought his whole shtick was portraying himself a bumbling idiot to bring out the hyperemotional crazies who get worked up about people not being just so? It is always fun watching the hyperemotional crazies.
Absolutely he wants to and a lot of people buy it.
For sure. A lot may even be an understatement for how many hyperemotional crazies have bought into his schtick.
It sounds like you have something in mind, why don’t you link me to it instead of sending me on a wild goose chase.
You can look in this thread, mate. There are screenshots a few comments up or down…
How did you get that out of the book?
I believe the lobster bollocks is actually Rule # 1. ‘Stand up straight’ or some shit (which lobsters also do not do because, well, they are lobsters).
Have you read the book?
I have read the book yes, and the lobster stuff is in chapter 1 indeed.
I don’t think that chapter was particularly enlightening, as far as I remember it was mainly about how evolutionary selection results in hierarchies in al species (hence the lobsters), and standing up straight gets you higher in the hierarchy because of something something confidence.
The evolution stuff is not wrong, and the stand up straight is… Eh… weird psychology stuff? However it didn’t mention women or gays as you said.
And how do you understand “hierarchies” in the context of human sociology?
Your message is notable in that it’s the first time I have realised that his readers may not even be reading this drivel at the level at which it was written, which is already laughably stupid.
It sounds like you are the one who believes the only hierarchies that exist are ones of race, gender, or sexual orientation. When I’ve heard Peterson talk on the topic he talks about hierarchies of competence, which has nothing to do with that other stuff.
You got to expand a bit on your question, I don’t know what you want to hear.
Regarding hierarchy in the animal kingdom, it’s this: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominance_hierarchy
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It’s a 400 page book, I posted what amount to chapter titles. Everything sounds generic at that high a level.
I don’t know how good it is, as I find his writing too verbose to really consume, but clearly his popularity for his kind of stuff (and not the political stuff) is something people are looking for and feel they need. They either aren’t getting it from other places or it’s not packaged in a way that speaks to them.
If it helps some kid clean themselves up, get a career, and get out on their own, and generally get their life together and pointed in a better direction, how is that a bad thing?
A lot of sects can help you clean yourself up and get your life together. Is it a good thing if you’re being brainwashed into strange believes (like transphobia) at the same time? Maybe it still is but maybe there are better ways to help people.
Sometimes you can hear the same thing 100 times, but when someone frames it in a slightly different way, or just uses slightly different words, it clicks.
Some people have found Ryan Holiday’s books on Stoicism to be helpful, but all he’s doing is retelling Meditations and it’s lessons with a more modern voice. Should we tell him to stop writing? I don’t think so.
The books, videos, etc about getting your shit together aren’t full of transphobia, they’re about getting your shit together. One person can speak on different topics. Even the trans stuff, it all started as a free speech thing, when the Canadian government made a law telling people how they had to speak. That’s what he took issue with, not trans people. Things may have spun out of control from there for various reasons, which isn’t a debate I’m interested in having.
Have you read my comment? I’ve said that maybe it’s good but maybe you can teach those things in a better, less toxic and less sectarian way. I don’t have issue with his old teachings but I think following anyone blindly is stupid and with JP from the very beginning I’ve seen a lot of it.
Yes, I read your comment, that why my reply was about the value of hearing the same things from different sources and in different ways, because you never know which one will click for a person. I don’t see how Peterson saying “clean your room and here is why” is any more or less toxic than a mother yelling at her kid to clean up their room. What his version included was the why, so you’re not cleaning just to clean it or appease your mom, but for a reason that can help other areas of life. I’m keeping the messages separate and not infusing everything he ever posted on Twitter into a college lecture from 10 years ago, as those things were completely separate, and I’ve never follow him on Twitter or read any of that stuff. I have watched some videos of lectures from his psyche class on YouTube, just like I’ve watched countless other things on YouTube, I don’t idolize any of them. When I see a news article about something he posted on Twitter, my response is usually one of, “huh, that was weird…” I don’t run out and start trying to kick people out of bathrooms; that’s something a crazy person would do.
I agree that no one should be followed blindly. I also think that people are imperfect, and we shouldn’t throw away everything they’ve done because they have an unpopular opinion, or have said things inelegantly, in some other areas of their life. We should be able to hear what someone says and say, I agree with X, but not with Y, so I’ll leave Y behind and integrate X into my life. We all do this every day. That’s what it means to not follow someone blindly. Those who agree with 100% of what anyone says aren’t thinking for themselves.
I agree that there are a lot of resources to learn things from, but for whatever reason, the way he frames certain things is working for some people, where other things haven’t. I feel like I’ve said this several times now and it keeps getting ignored. We can’t always wait for the perfect source of information, it might never come or not show up at the right time. For example, I was curious why he always skirted the question about if he believes in god, so I watched some of his lectures on the bible. It took 6+ hours for him to get it out, which could have been a 15 minute TED talk, so I wouldn’t really recommend it (it wasn’t an easy watch), but I understood his point, it made sense, and it changed the way I think about “god”. I still don’t believe in an actual god, but I can now understand where the idea likely came from and the value of something akin to god in a society, even if it’s been co-opted by people seeking power at various points in history. Maybe I could have heard that somewhere else, but it’s been many decades, and gone down many religious rabbit holes, and it took those lectures for me to put that mental model together. Growing up in a religious family I have a lot of issues around god and the church, and I think if I had heard those lectures, or those ideas, when I was much younger it would have been extremely helpful. Hearing it now is still helpful as it provides me a more nuanced view of the issues, rather than just “religion == bad”, which is where a lot of people land. Maybe somewhere, someone else is saying something similar, but will I ever chance across it? If I do, would I have been able to understand it in the same way? Probably not. Did any of the stuff he talked about in those 6+ hours have anything to do with divisive politics? Nope.
It looks like you believe I have some issue with you personally finding some value in Peterson’s writing. I don’t. You’re basically paraphrasing the same thing I’ve said. Can his writing help people? Yes, probably. Can you approach it in a healthy way, avoiding the toxic part and not becoming part of a cult? Yes, I’m sure it’s possible. Did most people approach it like this? Well, my sensation is that no, they did not. The community that grew around him became part of the right wing toxic masculinity and transphobic movements. And he never renounced it, it keeps playing a right wing guru. So yes, I don’t have any issue with people that read some of his books and found something valuable in them. But I also believe (and I think most people that are against him think the same) that he did more harm than good overall and that the world would be better without his philosophy. But of course it’s impossible to measure, it’s a subjective point of view and you can disagree.
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