This is probably NSFW so… warning(?)

I was going to reserve dinner at a place for our 7th anniversary of our marriage. My phone ran out of battery, so she told me to use hers.

While I was using it she received a message saying “tomorrow again? 😏”. Curiosity killed me, I opened the message because, as far as I knew, she stayed home while I was working the day before.

To my surprise, the guy that texted her sent her a video of her on all fours with 2 men cuming on her. Needless to say, there was no 7th anniversary dinner. This was also years ago so I got over it.

I could have said “she cheated on me” and leave it at that but I feel like the whole story is spicier.

~19 years of marriage ended late last year due to mental health issues + NPD. I’m still trying to get over it, but it’s tough; she just won’t leave me alone.

He got weirdly into this kind of toxic masculinity, misogynistic bullshit that I was not down with. It’s one thing to play with that consensually during sex, but I’m not okay with becoming a mini Andrew Tate clone

Girlfriend for four years had been cheating on me for at least seven months. We were a modern family with one kid each. Found out Sunday evening when I caught her texting. The worst is the kids when they will know they won’t be together again. And her family, very good people. She’s dead to me.

I took her for granted and probably got too comfortable in our domestic life. She had a new work friend who had nothing better to do than talk to her all day about how she would be a better partner than me.

She got bored of me, cheated, gaslit me and made me feel like I was treading on egg shells for 12 months and then we split up.

She’d have had permission if she had asked.

He had a lot of mental health issues that he just wouldn’t get help with.

He ended up being upset a lot because I didn’t “react the way [he] wanted me to”. In the end, I really did care about him a lot, but his clinginess and codependency on me was far too much for me to handle. He made it clear that he was unhappy, but also depended on me to make him happy. I tried very hard, but it was never good enough. Did my best to encourage and support him, but he just couldn’t do right for himself.

He really was such a beautiful person, but loving someone is often not enough.

I really do hope that he is doing well now, wherever he is.

I… dunno.

My ex ignored me for like two weeks and had become closed of. He reinsured me, that everything was fine when i asked him. But the next time he visted me, he said that he wanted to break up, saying he made up his mind two weeks earlier. But i dunno his reason for it.

The break up was okay. I though about it myself, cause he treated me bad the whole 5 month we were together: he talked bad about my interessets and hobbys. He overstepped my bounderies. And everytime, i made him aware of that, he was like “you didn’t make that clear enough”. He made me push my bounderies.

Sadly, i allowed this kind of behaivor back than. I was used to it. During that time i did not know about adhd. I always acted weird as a woman and felt bad for not fitting in. I acted impulsive and had mood swings. I wanted someone to love me, accept me. So i excused these behaivors.

No. I did not allowed that behaivor. But he made me feel like i was crazy when i wanted to talk about how i felt.

Now i have more selfesteem, i am weird and loud and full of my ideas. I am in a beatiful relationship, i am loved and accepted as who i am. I But of course that expierence still hunts me. It still hurts.

Her being a narcissist.