• HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com
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        im like the opposite. super sameness man. Im pretty sure people who knew me at any time since high school would likely recognize me. Sure I go down rabbit holes like anyone on the internet nowadays but my likes and dislikes have been pretty steady.

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    Does anyone here find they really enjoy groups of things, collections, arrays, assortments, varieties? I can’t really explain it adequately, but I’ve always somehow enjoyed collections of various things. One of the things i always think about that I’ve enjoyed since i was a kid, was the way a building in a city might have a set of signs in a vertical column with different logos for all the different stores/businesses within. Somehow i just found it satisfying to see all these different self-contained designs, all representing a variety of products or services. I also have really heavily enjoyed collectibles in my time: action figures, trading cards, video games, etc.

    I also remember having a couple posters above my bed years ago that each had a grid of like 100 different smiley faces that said “Have a day” and each smiley had a different expression/look and it said under it “Have a happy day” or “Have a broken day” or “Have a plaid day” and eventually i got a sequel poster that said “Have a night” with 100 different night-theme smileys each with their own “Have a _____ night”

    Just wonder if that’s a common trait anyone else here can relate to 😅

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      I have a similar odd thing that I can only descibe as being fascinated with articulation.

      Robots, skeletons, suits of armor, dolls, gears, some insects.

      Something made of distinct pieces moving in articulated ways, it’s a downright core desire.

      I also like things separated but still connected like by a string, cable, or wireless. Like kites, security cameras, or drones.

      I used to have a toy fishing rod with a rubber fish at the end that I love just throwing in the lake and realing back in. It just tickles my brain.

      And more similar to yours, I really love spreadsheets! They can do so many things!

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      I don’t have the energy right now to try and express myself in English but some of what you have said has resonated with me.

      I think I experience something similar to the toy building feeling. Dunno if it’s related to ADHD but still.

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    2 months ago

    And at the same time I’m actively doing nothing… Great progress

    Except maybe dreaming, I sure do a lot of that

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    I would say I struggle not because I want to be so many things but because I am so many different things. Mostly, though, I am just one thing and that is a person. Apparently, identifying as person who like to sleep, though, isn’t good enough for any of you.

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    2 months ago

    I relate to that ten dollar dude from the Hamilton musical singing „Alexander Hamilton. My name is Alexander Hamilton. And there‘s a million things i haven‘t done. But just you wait! Just you waaiiit!“

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    I don’t hook my sense of self to what I want to be. What works for me is having some fix points on my moral compass and I go from there. Just about everything else kinda falls into place. (And I also plan everything ahead, so I know how I want to act…)

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    That sounds so much like me! I would still add this on top: The constant rejection from my surroundings made me mask to the point where I refused any identity and tried being faceless. So that nobody could judge me anymore. In retrospective, this way of life has always been a failure.

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      damn, hearing it from someone else hits different. sometimes i yearn for the closeness of intimate friendships but the anxiety at the vulnerability of expressing a genuinely held opinion wont let me do anything else

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    I look at different people and think “how do they do so much, all these different things”.

    Then I take a step back and realise that each person often only does one thing, and they put so much time and effort into it.

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      And poor, so I can’t do the things I want to, and hate myself, no matter how I’m identifying.

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      I woke up tired one day at 28 and it’s been like this ever since.

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    2 months ago

    “With your abilities and interest you have so much potential. Why are you sabotaging yourself like this?”

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    Constantly. And then when I’m not good at something (even if I might enjoy it), I dread doing it again

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      It’s the lack of flow.

      When I’m good at something, I can switch my brain off (even for mental tasks like programming; it’s weird how ADHD works) and happily do it for hours.

      When I’m working on something I’m not good at or am new to, I need to stop every few minutes to think or research and that gives my ADHD brain an opportunity to attack.

      When I’m medicated, I can maintain that flow state with nearly any task - just with zero control over which task gets priority.

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        Yeah, I really should look into getting medication. Even if it does work, I still wanna try it. But there’s always a reason not to make efforts for it

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      I don’t know if it might be due to ADHD (or something related) since I’m still waiting to get tested but I feel the same.

      The moment I notice I’m not good/best among my peers at something I don’t want to touch it even again.

      On the other hand this might be just me acting like a five year old I don’t known. I just related hard.

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        I feel you. What helped me was learning about growth mindset and fixed mindset. It doesn’t magically cure it, but it does help to know why you feel that way and how untrue that reason is.

        I didn’t read the whole book of course, but there’s tons of exec summaries and short talks on it that can help to understand it.

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    2 months ago

    Opposite for me - I do so many things that I don’t strongly identify with any single one. Get a tattoo?? Nah, I’ll probably be bored of the subject in a few months!