So you would put more people as kinky because you think most are repressing very dark shit? Maybe, but seems like most people I know kind of don’t care that much about sex, if that makes sense. If it’s more like violence that just sometimes finds a sexual outlet, is that even kinky?

Everyone has the same basic hormonal needs as humans. Every human must balance these needs on some level. This is the lowest foundational level of everything I see and understand about sexuality. All forms of sexual expression are roads on a map that lead back to here. Therefore, everyone is traveling on this road map. Some people may be on Obvious Kinky Street or Furry Lane, but everyone is on one of these paths, even if it is on some super secret side street out of view, and one they walk in circles on for their entire lives. The amount of travel and exploration vary greatly, but it is all within the spectrum of the roads and connections on this map. Dark shit happens because of mental health issues, but also because we heavily stigmatize many connections present on this map or straight up deny that some roads exist. Basically, kinks are one manifestation of sexual intelligence and self awareness.

I think most people are kinky because the roads are connections and are fundamentally present. They are on the map even when they do not know about it or acknowledge it. It is very easy for such persons to get unexpectedly lost in places they are not familiar. They tend to travel the wrong way on one way streets or step into some innocent person on their own path. Some asshats plow through an intersection in a school zone with a kid in the crosswalk.

As an example, if a person really likes dominance for arousal, they should be playing in BDSM with like minded consenting participants, not encountering someone on a lonely street at night and taking advantage of an opportunity.

I view the fundamental factor in common as a dominance kink and the person that openly acknowledges and explores this kink as sexually intelligent. However the fundamental kink of power dynamics is a core part of some functional thought and a type of person. The extent of the trait varies, but it is a part of all people with this type of functional thought. The spectrum of my “7-10” is a measure of self awareness and the intention is largely their degree of proclivity. If the person is suppressing a large proclivity and finds themselves getting lost on the wrong road, I view them as extreme in their kinks even if they appear asexual on the surface to others. They lack self awareness and familiarity with the map and are like a wrecking ball in a China shop. In a prudish society, there are a lot of these wrecking balls that are bottled and suppressed; far more than those with psychosis as active predators.