You can totally do it! It takes a lot of practice and dedication, and yes, you are going to sound off at first but that’s normal.

I suspect the reason your voice didn’t sound as feminine as you wanted is because you need to brighten your resonance more. Even with a deep pitch, a bright resonance will make your voice sound noticably more feminine.

The other thing it could be is perhaps your voice was too breathy, because it’s not natural sounding and it’s an easy mistake to make. I even made that mistake myself when I started out.

Pitch actually doesn’t matter too much. Like others in this thread have said, resonance is way more important.

For example, it’s actually really difficult for me to talk in my old voice, because I haven’t used it in such a long time. While I can get the pitch down if I try hard enough, I can’t do the same for my resonance, so my voice still sounds somewhat feminine even when I’m talking in a low pitched voice.

I never practiced for a set amount of time. I’d just do it kind of randomly whenever I felt like it. Usually I would practice at night when I was having trouble sleeping, but I’d sometimes do it while driving as well.

Also random hot tip: Have a word that you can say really well in your feminine voice that can be worked into any sentence, such as um or like, because then you can use it to recalibrate when you feel your feminine voice starting to falter.

Yep. Multiple times I have had Google maps direct me to back employee only entrances instead of the regular entrances. Sometimes it seems like Google doesn’t even recognize that the front entrance even exists.

I actually just looked it up and was going to edit my original comment but you already replied! Lol anyways, what I found was this:

Anatomically, penile and scrotal skin have no self-lubricating potential, though penile inversion vaginoplasty may produce some sexually responsive secretory fluid when urethral tissue is incorporated and lubricating genitourinary accessory glands are retained.

From this source: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37105933/

That’s interesting. I’ve only heard from people who got PI that theirs is always dry. I am aware that the shaft can secrete fluids, but I didn’t think it could be that much.

Yes, and also the one where they use a piece of the colon, unless I am mistaken, that also uses penile inversion.

There are multiple ways vaginoplasties are done. One is penile inversion, which results in a dry vaginal canal. Others use penile inversion plus some moist tissue so that the vaginal canal isn’t dry. Sometimes this tissue secretes excess fluid and that’s what the liners are for.

Yeah, I forgot that there are different variants better suited for cis women. I’m pretty sure you’re correct that she does need something a bit different.

I am a trans woman so I understand how it feels to not have the hormones you want in your body. It’s literal hell. You are allowed to have your own feelings, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Your wife’s mental state is just in the gutter right now and that’s why she’s lashing out at you.

I’d recommend seeing a professional so she can get prescribed estradiol. That’s really the only thing that’s going to fix it.

Congratulations! I’ve been considering getting a vaginoplasty, but I am worried about the maintenance, such as dilating. Do you find it to be a lot of work or cumbersome at all?

I love the type of gameplay that the Sims (specifically building and character creation, other stuff is boring af) has but it sucks so much to play because it’s so limited unless you spend thousands on all the dlc. I am a game dev (well, I call myself that but I’ve never released anything cuz I’m too busy with finishing up college rn) and I really want to make a life sim game one day. I’ve seen plenty of indie life sims fail unfortunately, but I’m still going to try anyways. I have a few ideas I haven’t seen anyone else do. So many of these games fail that I’m not afraid to try something a bit crazy and hope it sticks.

Ok, so I live in a decently rural area. One time on a lesbian dating app I set my distance range very low and my age range very high just because I wanted to see if there was even anyone near me at all.

I shit you not, the first profile that appears is of my old, conservative neighborman wearing various lingerie and dresses. Yet this person still goes and votes for trump. Do they like being repressed? It doesn’t make any sense.

Did you see what I put in paren at the bottom?

Also I strongly disagree with the statement that there is no connection between men wearing makeup and them being secure in their masculinity.

… there is a connection between men who won’t wear makeup because … their insecurity in masculity.

This is exactly why I like men who are into makeup, because they’re not going to be insecure in their masculinity most likely.

For me this comes from having lots of bad experiences with masculine presenting men and it takes me a long time to feel safe around a guy, but if they are more feminine presenting I feel much safer around them because all the feminine guys I know have never done anything to make me feel unsafe.

Interesting, I’m wondering if that’s a generational difference or if it’s because I tend to hang around other queer people since I haven’t really experienced that with women.

I’m a trans woman and I wasn’t out when I was in highschool but I did present myself as a somewhat feminine man then and there were quite a few guys that I upset by simply existing, however women were more interested in talking to me after I started presenting more femininely. Although I think this is because they thought I was a gay man, and thus felt safer around me.

Why is makeup so low? To me that’s super attractive if a guy likes wearing makeup because it shows that he is secure in his masculinity and probably isn’t a misogynistic asshole, but maybe I’m just into feminine men?

(Also I’m not saying that if guys don’t like wearing makeup then they’re insecure, it’s just that makeup is a visible thing so it’s easier to tell that they’re most likely more secure)

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They never put a /s and I have autism so I’m going to take it literally.

Nope. I used to be exactly like you when I was a 13yo edge lord and I know how you operate. You clearly have a lot of insecurities you don’t know how to deal with so you turn to hate to make yourself feel better.

Bruh did you even read the original comment you posted lmao

I started my transition as a minor, and unfortunately my parents were unsupportive of me getting HRT at the time, but I probably would have started it about 1 to 1.5 years in from my egg crack. I didn’t get it until about 4 years in, and that’s also when I decided to fully socially transition, because estrogen gave me a lot of confidence. I did partially social transition about 6 months after my egg crack, where I was only out to my family. I would be getting other things like hair removal and etc, but I can’t afford them at the moment.

Also the day before my first appt for HRT, I was very nervous and somewhat doubtful, but I went in and I was so happy walking out of that appointment. Now if any doubts wiggle their way into my mind, I just remember how happy estrogen makes me, and how happy I was to get it.