I like “realize”. I knew there was such a thing as a “sex change surgery” and even looked into it from a technical perspective because it intrigued me. It’s fantasized about moving to a new city and getting one; starting over.

I’d heard an offhand version of David Reimer’s story as kind of a conservative horror story. I’d seen movies and tv shows make plenty of fun of people who “pretended” to be “the wrong sex”. Monty Python’s “lady penis” scene still pops into my head sometimes.

I knew trans people existed and I’d seen a couple of people with “they/them” on their name badge. But I never really put together that those things were “real” in a meaningful way, or applicable to me and my experiences.

So then I kind of realized what it all meant.

Well. I did find that book, but not the story about it. Also, TIL Orson Scott Card is rather a bit of a homophobe.

So often, you’ll hear trans people say they always knew. I think that’s both the case, and a bit off. My guess is that they’ve always had a feeling SOMETHING was amiss, but weren’t really able to nail down the exact feeling until, well… They started considering transitioning.

That’s almost exactly what I was trying to say with my top level comment.

As for you: talk to trans people. See if you can relate to them.

I second this whole thing. Consider your gender. Spend a bit of time thinking about it. If you are trans and don’t know, it’s not something that’s going to suddenly start being true, you’re just going to put the pieces together.

I can’t speak for anyone else, but I didn’t turn anything, I just found a way to say what I had already been feeling the whole time. I never felt like a “man” or a “boy” and just smiled and nodded when other people described me in those categories. I didn’t have the words, didn’t have a way to let other people know how I felt about myself until now, and still struggle with some people who still don’t understand.

I’m not a woman because I like nail polish, dresses, or unicorns, and I’m not not a woman because I like video games, dragons, and nerd shit. I’m a woman because that’s who I am, and once I realized that was “allowed” it was the only true way to say it. I’m not a feminine man and I never was, and while I don’t think I’m a particularly masculine woman, I didn’t think “looking girly stuff” or “liking manly stuff” is ever going to define who you are. If you honestly don’t know who you are, I can see it helping you figure it out, but if you are comfortable being who you are, you don’t need to change it.

I was thinking the same thing.

She asked me to murder someone. You know, couples stuff.

Whaaaaat!? Grooming? But Humbert isn’t trans? This is just normal behavior, it only becomes wrong when you are already a persecuted minority.

/s obvs

…in Points of Origin

Okay, I think you need to be more specific? I really don’t know what story you’re referring to.

I believe you. I meant more that it “won” conceptually than phonetically. To an American ear it sounds more like “aw” or “ah” than “o”.

Pretty sure “caught” won and “cot” lost in the caught-cot merger. I don’t think most Americans would conceive of it as an “o” sound

Because it was played twice

It’s totally illegal right up until it suddenly isn’t squatting any more

Wait, wait, wait. You’re telling me people leave their homes?!

Yeah, it’s trans masc instead, but it did give us the very fun trans masc trans mask.

Don’t have to tell me twice

What it actually says is not to lay with a man as you would with a woman. It’s not about being gay, it’s about topping!

The Hebrew Bible maybe, but it’s pretty clearly outlined by Paul in the new testament that non-jewish Catholics definitely don’t have to follow Jewish custom (and don’t have to be circumcised in particular)

I hate that our choices are a guy who should be retired vs a nazi that should be retired.

Very well said

I mean the “justification” used by the Christians who vote for this kind of thing is that it would be under for the government to take money from people to help others, and it’s up to each individual with money to give freely to support the poor, or whatever.

That’s what they say out loud, anyway. So they can blame atheists for not giving freely. Never mind that they tend to give less, but

Nonsense. I’m sure someone with a home and a job will be allowed to take a carnap on the quad of their public university. It’s only illegal to do it when you have to.