It’s kinda hard, because if all you have experienced are the shallow women who only care about looks, money, and status, being told you are wrong will just make you feel invalidated. I don’t think it’s much different from women who assume that all men are misogynistic rapists due to having been traumatized by them. It is a way to tie your experiences and identity into the ideologies you support.

I grew up being taught that feminism is simply wanting men and women to be equal. Only as an adult, have I found that was not the case. But if you either stay in your echo camber, or simply don’t really participate in debates about feminism, it is very possible to never change your mind.

It depends. Some simply believe that wanting equality = being feminist. In that case it isn’t really a red flag. Otherwise, ask yourself if you want to spend your time with people you disagree with. Personally, I don’t think political disagreements are a dealbreaker and can occasionally find a civil argument fun, but at the same time I wouldn’t want to date someone who refuses to listen to me, or attacks me for my beliefs. Just being identifying as a feminist is definitely not enough to disqualify someone.

That is a fair point. If the wages are that bad, I wouldn’t want anyone to work those jobs. Maybe we should look towards therapists or psychologists then… Better wages, dominated by women, and clearly in high demand.

Conditions and money is for sure a big part of it, but even with things as they are, way fewer men than women still choose these career paths. Surely there is a reason for that?

To start, I think that there is a certain feeling if you are a boy/man that somehow, these jobs are not for you. Inviting guest speakers, for example male kindergarten teachers, to high schools where they would speak about their experiences and why they chose that job could be a first step in making it sound more approachable.

Feminism is a political ideology, and in order to understand what a political ideology entails, you need to look at how it is applied to the real world. ‘Real’ communism is supposed to bring about a utopia in which resources are fairly distributed and everyone works as best they can to aid one another. In reality, communism has resulted in mass murder, famine and some of the most cruel dictatorships the modern world has seen.

‘Real’ capitalism is supposed to ensure that everyone produces what they are best at producing, and market forces should ensure that we get the best quality and cheapest products we can have while also making everyone richer. In reality, capitalism results in the aggregation of wealth and power, misleading advertising, horrible working conditions for the poor, and rising inequality.

In the same vein, ‘real’ feminism might be supposed to create equality by tearing down the societal structures that keeps people down, ultimately helping everyone. But in reality, it simply empowers women at any cost, resulting in the marginalization and silencing of men.

A communist might genuinely want the best for the world and envision a utopia, but that doesn’t change how the ideology is applied. And ultimately, that is the measure of what the ideology truly is. The actions of the leaders are the determinant, not the opinions of random followers.

As it stands, right now feminism is applied in a way that either ignores or silences men. and thus, it is anti-male.

It is pretty hard to be pro men without being anti feminism (not anti women though) when it seems that feminists constantly trash on any attempt at giving men the rights and resources they need and deserve.

Whenever the topic of conscripting women comes up, feminist leaders and politicians will counter that just because we treat men poorly does not mean we should do the same to women. These same people are still overall in favor of mandatory conscription continuing though, so nothing happens. Meanwhile, men are literally forced to work for the military and potentially fight and die for their country while women get to live their lives.

When the idea of opening shelters for male homeless or victims of abuse comes up, this is shot down by feminists who fear that resources will be taken away from women to do this. Again, no progress is made as all money allocated to abuse victims must go to women.

The UN has several departments for empowering women all over the world, yet none specifically for men. This causes them to always look at atrocities through the eyes of “this harms women and children” regardless of how disproportionately an issue affects men.

The World Economic Forum defines gender inequality between the sexes to be when men are advantaged over women. However, when women are advantaged over men (for example if they have better health outcomes, or are overrepresented within a certain field) this is seen as being equal. In fact it doesn’t matter to them how bad men are doing as long as women are doing better.

There are many more examples.

I know that individual feminists can be perfectly good people who want the best for the world. The same cannot be said about the feminists in power though. The very people the movement seems to support, those who get the votes and lead the movement are actively using it to silence men under the banner of “empowering women”.

Any real, positive change for men cannot happen within the movement of feminism. And it cannot ignore feminism either, as it seemingly strives to take any resources allocated for men in order to give them to women. If you want to change societal structures in a way that promotes equality for men and women, rather than empowering women at the expense of men, you will clash with feminism eventually. That is what you are seeing here.