she/her
I blocked the community mostly because I didn’t like the overly aggressive responses and the lack of any discussion around alternatives etc. but if things have changed since I blocked (which was shortly after it’s inception) then that’s good.
Oh yes, I forgot. I blocked them a while ago which is why I cant see them.
EDIT: I also find their presence here somewhat disappointing. They seem very focused on being polarizing and asking people to not vote biden rather than promoting any sort of alternative, in addition to being needlessly aggressive towards anyone who disagrees with them.
While I’m not personally a fan of hexbear or lemmygrad it sounds like you’re doing a very good job with the moderation.
I’m not familiar with this community nor can I find it on blåhaj?
Valid, but ultimately no average user is gonna try anything like that on their own.
I just don’t like the idea that the moderators tolerate this sort of behavior.
People spreading misinformation to erode my rights and cause violence against me is maybe slightly different from a difference in opinion. Additionally, I think the major instances (at least the general ones) should hold themselves to a higher standard than niche instances.
EDIT: Honestly thinking this is about safe spaces is very tone deaf.
Linux can absolutely replace windows for the average user.
Love your hair !
They would have known this if they bothered to open the surgery regret rate studies I linked them (but we both know studies won’t change their minds). For the lazy it’s less than 1% for both transmascs and transfems.
Kids are never offered “life changing surgeries”. This doesn’t happen. Evidence very much suggests being trans is a genuine neurological condition that we are born with.
Brains are not necessarily binary.
We understand some of the causes.
“Risk” of being born trans seems to be partly genetic.
The American Academy of Pediatrics is on our side.
Adults don’t regret surgery. And another study on the same.
Additionally, getting a diagnosis is a long process (and it’s not guaranteed that you’ll get one), and then actually getting treatment takes even more time (also not guaranteed).
Some people don’t have an inner monologue at all, actually !
Dunno what either of those things are called
There is absolutely some muscle loss when on hrt. A study suggests transfems are comparable to cis women after about 2 years on hormones. Dunno if transfems have an easier time having visible abs, though.
https://bjsm.bmj.com/content/55/11/577.full?ijkey=yjlCzZVZFRDZzHz&keytype=ref
Don’t read the comments there :/ Terf island is appropriate
I think you meant “being a woman isn’t bad” o_o
I would recommend checking out this website: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/ It has helped a lot of trans people understand themselves, and would probably help you understand trans people as well :)
EDIT: This game let’s you walk around and see some common terms and stuff: https://purplesloth.itch.io/whats-your-gender
“Why are you trying to do [x]? Have you tried doing [y] instead?”
It varies from person to person. Sometimes it’s stuff like body dysphoria (MRI’s show that trans peoples biological sex don’t match the sex of the brain, likely the brains mapping of the body is therefore often somewhat incorrect), sometimes there is just a feeling, sometimes there is a noticeable comfort or discomfort with presenting this or that way, sometimes there are thoughts and dreams, sometimes there are behavioral or mental effects.
How people react to going through puberty can be telling as well, as it seems the brain is kinda programmed to want a certain mix of hormones. Some trans people report a variety of shitty mental symptoms going away when receiving hrt, and coming back when stopping. Some react very negatively to the physical changes brought on by puberty.
I remember day dreaming about finding out that I’m intersex (I didn’t know the term, I had just heard about something similar happening somewhere) and a doctor telling me I could choose to be a girl when I was a kid. I would always pick female characters in video games, it was always just harder to be invested in male characters even if they were never visible. I would always make them look like what I imagined I would look like as a girl/woman.
I had my mom dress me up as a girl for halloween once and have had a number of cross dressing occasions throughout my childhood.
I never liked having short hair and frequently let it grow out. I was always jealous of the clothes girls got to wear.
I never really clicked with guy stuff, though I didn’t have very feminine hobbies or interests either. Stuff that was male-coded was however extra unappealing to me just because it was male-coded.
The idea of being very masculine was extremely unappealing, and I was secretly very proud and happy of every comment and compliment I received about behaving feminine or being non-masculine.
I was casually a woman in 50% of my daydreams and was always fascinated by fiction involving swapping genders and being accepted for who you were etc.
I don’t like my face or my beard all that much despite looking perfectly alright, and I really disliked having any body fat at all (I don’t mind a healthy bit of body fat nearly as much now that my hormones tell my body to store it in feminine places).
Anyways, I never really suspected I was trans until like a year ago despite feeling kinda text book in hindsight.
EDIT: Hope the wall of text isn’t overwhelming. The TLDR is it’s complicated, and the only way to know is to just know or try stuff out until you feel comfortable :)
EDIT 2: I figured out I was trans by reading the definition and symptoms, thinking about it for a couple of months, and then trying some stuff out.
Yes, but distance is still continuous, a minimum measurable distance (between stuff) doesn’t make space granular. I suppose there might be a minimum measurably meaningful number of configurations, but I’m not super convinced.
Yes, but that’s why I keep saying average user. Your average user mostly just browses the internet, casually plays games, and uses common software like word, with increasingly many apps/services being available online. Gamers who mess with drivers, the hardware, and bios settings and such are not really the norm. How many people in your life are afraid to touch the windows settings, if they even know where to find them?
Honestly most of the popularity of windows at home these days I’m willing to bet is because it’s what’s installed by default, and of course because of familiarity.
You’re right of course that professionally you can’t always replace windows, and while proton let’s you play almost anything there are certain games that aren’t available (usually because of anti-cheat). Most pc users however won’t notice as they aren’t gamers. I do also find that the settings and gui package managers on most distros are way more user-friendly than what you have on windows, which I think is another point in favour of using linux casually.
EDIT: Also most users don’t have high-end machines, and linux pc’s are nicer on the hardware and are less performance intensive which means their computers will be relevant for longer.