I’m definitely not doing okay considering I’ve got an appointment at the Mayo Clinic in March… but hey, the end of this month will be my six month anniversary of not eating any solid food. So hooray!
Oof…
Good luck at the Mayo Clinic, but I hear their Ketchup therapy leaves something to be desired.
I’m glad you got an appointment! I’ve been passively following your story through your comments and I’m rooting for you. I really hope you find answers soon!
Thank you!
i like how it’s some fucking revolation. Like, just look around. poke around on the internet for 10 min. Large, HUGE amounts of people have not been ok for a long time. What’s sad is everyone has their fucking heads too buried in their phones and ipads to notice.
The only reason I’ve not killed myself is cos I’ve been failing for 20yrs to do it. Don’t expecyt me to enjoy this fucked up existence just because I have no fucking choice but to live in it.
Life is just a different type of prison.
Step away from the news cycle, friend. Stick to topics that bring you joy, be it space, guitars, whatever. Three weeks of that, and your outlook will be better. Also, cut your social media consumption down to one, maybe two days per week.
I’m not saying that’s all you need to do. I know mental health is a very complicated subject! I myself suffer from anxiety. But I did the above, and it’s made a difference.
You matter, friend!
I don’t think this advice actually works well for everyone. Receding more into isolation is just as exhausting and depressing to some as being aware but part of the mess.
I honestly think people just want to feel productive and see strives for making things better. Stuff that is hard to do personally and unfortunately not very present in society at large.
Ignorance is bliss only if you start and stay ignorant. You can’t put the horrors of the world back in the box once the lid is opened.
I know you mean well but I personally see how this can feel very surface level and not be super helpful even though I don’t personally know what advice is. It’s kinda hard for a singular person to truly understand another. We try and that’s good though, it’s what really makes us human. Hope we get more of that.
I don’t do it because I’m not willing to transfer my pain to my family members.
Oh you have a family? Must be nice.
I think that “heads buried” comment may just be the newest “kids these days”. It was always complaints going back to television, then radio, even as far back as carrying newspapers on the morning trolley.
I know it often seems like people just aren’t engaged - but it’s usually how they engage, for better or worse.
Right? Buddha laid down the science of the four Noble truths a long ass time before the internet.
Suffering is an ancient companion of our species.
I’m sad there’s been virtually no snow all winter and I’m in Canada. That’s a bad sign. Ski slopes might as well close for good.
I live in Iowa but work remotely for a company in Minnesota - we got like 2 feet more snow than Minnesota did with the blizzard a few weeks back. The climate has been so crazy these last few months
Is that abnormal?
Minnesota is infamously cold. Iowa is famous for corn.
The last few winters my dad had to drive up to Minnesota when he wanted to snowmobile - we would have like 1 inch of snow while they had feet of it
Same here. The mountain I frequent just put in a high speed lift, went operational Dec 24. After Christmas they got rain for at least a couple of days during break and I didn’t even try skiing then.
My kids went sledding one day last season and one day so far this season. The ground barely freezes so the mice and ticks will be in force come spring.
I’m in New England so further south but I do remember the times we had snowy Christmases and could skate on the ponds. Hopefully my kids might be able to experience that but I have my doubts, I doubt I will ever see that again.
I remember when I had to stuff a snowsuit beneath my Halloween costume. I only ever once saw a green Christmas in childhood, and now I don’t know the last time I saw a white one. This year we’ve had like a day of very mild snowfall and one fairly cold week, and it’s just pure mud out there and hovering around 3C. It isn’t good at all.
Let’s see my list of anxiety:
- Climate Change
- The rise of fascism (and being in a marginalized group targeted by fascists)
- Inflation eating into my earnings and savings
- The entire marketplace being dominated by broken, fake or scam services and products.
- Pretty severe imposter syndrome and the related feeling that my job mobility is bad because I’m not valuable.
- Anxiety and ADD feeling worse than ever and having little hope to get help treating it.
God damnit. Am I leaving comments from alt accounts in my sleep again?
All this and also my roof is also leaking because my fucking landlord only gets hack fixes from a fucking handyman instead of maintaining my goddamn home
Document it and withhold rent until it’s remedied properly. Is there a tenant union in your area you could reach out to for assistance and guidance?
Small comfort, but the thing with Fascism is that it is a cult of power. Nobody is safe, anyone can be targeted, including those who support it most fervently. Anyone with half a brain knows that under fascism they’re one week and whim from being the next target, so know that you aren’t alone.
It’s certainly frustrating to watch people who would definitely end up in camps supporting the fascist take-over of their country. But they think they’re special and unique and the face-eating leopard won’t eat their face.
Maybe a better title, “nobody perpetually on social media is ok right now”.
Yeah, I for one am pretty ok. Family is good, work is okay, can’t complain about much.
Which sounds weird to write. Maybe that’s why nobody writes “I’m allright” and you just read about people complaining.
It’s just people on social media though. Everyone is having a hard time.
We work too long for meaningless jobs; we don’t get time for hobbies, ourselves, or with our families; we can’t afford housing or groceries; we’re either stuck in traffic or on the way to being stuck in traffic; all our information is being sold to companies so that they can force more ads into our faces…
Life sucks right now for everyone because that’s just how the people in charge want it to be for us.
Buy this car to drive to work; drive to work to pay for this car.
Vote for a government that will build a decent public transportation network, take the bus or tram to work, save money, read a book. Or lemmy.
I’ve been working harder at work for a promotion. I’m not going to get it. I fucking hate work, it’s not particularly hard, it’s just unfulfilling and boring. I dread work every day. I would go somewhere else but hate interviewing because even for 1 job it’s at least 4 interviews and tests. I can’t afford to take a cheaper job. I took today off though so that’s nice.
Work to live, not live to work
You are going to suffer every day just to avoid 4 interviews?
I interview for a new job every now and then, like twice a year, even tho I don’t hate my job.
It’s a fun process that can only go well (worst case, everything stays the same) and you practice your interview skills. And you get a first hand peek into the job market to help you negociate your current job conditions. And you get to know new people, companies, processes and technologies.
If you’ve been working hard at work to get a promo, it’s probably time to get that promo, but externally. You’ll probabaly get better pay that way too.
When putting together your resume, remeber to use the xyz format for your job successes “achieved x, doing y, with z results”. This helps provide hiring managers and recruiters an idea of your performance and what type of results you can likely deliver for their team.
Enjoy the day off
My random list
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climate change, I live in BC and summers are literally apocalyptic, ash raining from the sky and can’t even see the sun
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loss of biodiversity which is plainly obvious with every passing year. Recently drove to Alaska without having to clean bugs off windshield
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clearcut forest no matter where you look
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never getting my own house despite “doing everything right” and well above average income
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one bag of groceries is like $100
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never having kids or a family, obvious reasons
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no real friends since I graduated college, social media ruined everything
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friends I had are priced out and are thousands of km away, or dead
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housing so fucked that I have spent the last five years looking for a rental that allows a cat and still looking, I feel like if I just had a cat I would be so much happier
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aging population and constantly going to funerals
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various addictions I’ve lost control over since pandemic
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cost of travel increasing exponentially so that’s coming to an abrupt end too
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impossible to go outside without reminder of total societal collapse, teslas cruising around on streets full of homeless people
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haven’t seen a doctor in years because there are none
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have to go to work in 10 minutes but didn’t get a wink of sleep last night or the night before it
You’re not whiny. Don’t denigrate yourself the way boomers bullied you to. Your feelings and concerns obviously do matter.
Maybe later I’ll edit the post with a list of things I’m grateful for because there are a lot of them, too
hi! it’s been about three hours since you posted this. you doing better?
Appreciate you checking in, I actually called out sick today and going to spend the day in the forest to recharge a bit.
I need to be doing that more often. Thanks for the inspiration.
It’s a great exercise on mindfulness which is incredibly important at least for my brain. Rather than trying to hike the longest distance sometimes it’s better to sit completely still for an extended period of time and allow the birds to get used to your presence. It’s quite humbling when the patience pays off.
Hey if you ever end up getting a place that allows cats, please get two. When you are away at work they can socialize with each other. I’m not saying having only one cat is animal abuse or anything, it’s just better to have two.
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When I was much younger, 22 or so years ago, I had a few suicide attempts. What I’m dealing with now is so, so much worse. Orders of magnitude worse.
I have a cat now, though. Who would take care of my cat? I can’t leave my cat alone.
I’m sorry you’re going through it.
I have the same thing with my dog. I made an attempt when I was 18, then got a dog at 20. I’m 24 now and still struggle a lot with depression, wishing the attempt had worked and all that, but would never do it now because I can’t imagine leaving my dog all by himself.
Same but with a 13 year old son. If he was way younger maybe; but he would know and remember now.
Commenting in both of these comments so y’all both see it, but be careful with having a living thing as your safety net. It’s tough to think about, but at some thine they will pass and the ground will fall out from under you. Speaking from experience here.
Edit: Sorry, not trying to darken an already dark topic.
what a shitty thing to say.
edit: replying in both places because you said it twice
Yikes. I don’t know a better way to phrase it, but I sure as hell wish someone had said that to me 10 years ago; before my dog who was my safety net got a brain tumor out of nowhere and had to be put down. What do you do when the only thing that’s keeping you afloat becomes an anchor? Animals are absolutely great and I’m not saying they shouldn’t have them or even use them to help mental health. But having a living thing that is the only thing stopping you from self-harm is dangerous.
Yikes. I don’t know a better way to phrase it
telling depressed people, “hey, that thing you love? that light in your life? IT’S GONNA DIE!” is really fucked up, and if you don’t know better than not to say things like that, you should say nothing at aall. rubbing it in more and trying to rationalize it with an anecdote about your own horror story hardly makes it better.
if any of us had wanted your advice, we would have asked for it. I’ll listen to my therapist’s advice for an emotional support animal over some stranger on the internet who seems more interested in trolling and attention than being supportive to others.
Ok, have a good one.
No, you’re totally right. My hope is that I’m in a more stable place when that day comes. I’m already doing a lot better, so here’s to hoping.
I appreciate you saying that tho, I think that’s important to hear for a lot of people in similar situations, because it’s absolutely true.
Right on, best of luck and be safe out there. I was on the fence of whether to post anything or not. Mainly was afraid I’d get the response that I did from the other commenter. If I learned anything from that experience, and closer to what I originally wanted to convey but don’t think I did, is that it’s important to not rely on one thing to keep you going. Having a pet to help keep you going is great, but my mistake was having my dog be ‘the only thing’, so losing him also lost the last thing that was keeping me going.
Anyways, have a good one and give your puppers a hug.
the psychological impact of a cat existing near you never fails to impress.
Plus there is that 100% percent certainty that the cat will start munching on your ears as soon as your pulse stops.
I am also alive because cat.
::hugs::
Commenting in both of these comments so y’all both see it, but be careful with having a living thing as your safety net. It’s tough to think about, but at some thine they will pass and the ground will fall out from under you. Speaking from experience here.
Edit: Sorry if that’s dark, not trying to drop the mood on an already moody topic.
what a shitty thing to say.
edit: replying in both places because you said it twice
Well the first problem is the question was asked on Musk’s hellsite. No one who still uses that platform is ok.
I’ve seen Elon Musk nick’d as ElMo, so it get’s meta…
And you’re not wrong, hence here.
Elmo you are on the inside, you can get places we can’t, you are trusted. Help us change things. I have a list of names.
Elmo might be on the inside….
But his puppet masters are still fisting him all the same. (Sorry for ruining childhoods.)
Fist Me Elmo! was a b8g seller a5 thevFolsombStreet Faire
When an Elmo stands up for himself he gets silenced and they stitch a new one. Younger. Innocent. A naïve Elmo that doesn’t get the same education so he’s easier to control.
He hasn’t read this many disturbing responses since he was introduced to Sesame Street in the first place.
Nobody on X is doing okay. People forget that’s just one of the social media and it’s taken a turn for the worse. Lem is mostly chill.
mostly, excluding .ml and kbin accounts, those people need to chill the fuck out.
(not literally everyone, obviously. they just have a tendency to be very passionate)
its seldomly kinda funny how your chosen instance has become an object of judgement and hate here.
i chose mine completely randomly and i bet a huge chunk of users did too.
Hey! I’m from .ml and I sorta take some offense at that! I think, does anyone know?
I’m from the generic instance so my opinion is irrelevant anyway also I’m probably a bot beep boop
Lol this is literally that “so controversial yet brave” meme and I agree I’ve noticed the same. Kbin gets passionate af about random topics with ml it seems to be more political but everyone please correct if I’m wrong
Just to be a contrarian, I’m doing OK.
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don’t hate my job and make very decent money, pretty stable financially
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have a lovely wife and two healthy young kids
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decent apartment with plans for an energy positive house as the kids are growing
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fun family friendly car, cool gadgets at home, lots of toys to play with, endless entertainment online
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AI is making lots of tasks easier, will only get better
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robots and machines making home tasks easier as well
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live in a country with an acceptable government (that I didn’t vote for, but am OK with), universal Healthcare and strong social safety net
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medicine constantly improving
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china installing solar panels like maniacs, rapidly getting cheaper and more ubiquitous
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Middle East is as fucked as ever, nothing I can do about it
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Russia is always invading neighbors, and this time at least they got a fucking punch in the face
I’ve been much worse in the past.
- Your quality of life is about to be destroyed when billions are made homeless through environmental disaster.
I don’t think so. Climate could be fixed and humans are resilient.
And even if so, nothing I can do to prevent it. Just enjoy the present.
Very Stoic. Spend energy on things you can control and don’t on things you can’t.
Just wish I could get my anxiety brain to get on board with that.
What about your kids
what about them? OP is correct to teach his kids to live in the moment and not spend energy on things they can not change.
My kids cannot do anything about it either, yet. I will teach them the best I can. Maybe they will want to get into politics and fix the mess, or just do the best they can. Use green solutions like bikes and public transport, recycle, etc.
You’re not okay, you lack empathy. Me as well, I have nothing to complain about, and I am able to enjoy life despite all the shit that’s wrong in the world, but I can read the room and don’t feel the need to rub that in people’s faces when clearly a lot of people are struggling. Also, I am sad for those people and frustrated that voting isn’t enough, while doing “enough” would mean giving up a large part of my comfortable life, not because that’s what it would take, but because too many people are doing jack shit to improve the world, or rather actively contributing to the clusterfuck that the world is in.
A lot of people are always struggling. Even in this thread you’ll see some people complaining about exisistential dangers and other people complaining about Netflix and Microsoft windows.
There have always been wars, sickness, hunger and suffering. We are probably near the minimum of all of those in this century. On a historical scale, a working poor today lives better than a king a thousand years ago, at least in most European countries. You have guaranteed shelter, high quality safe food, clean water, modern healthcare and all the knowledge of humanity in the palm of your hand (besides access to unlimited free education).
I vote my conscience, I pay my taxes (almost 40% of my income) and I even donate to local charities on top of that, but I refuse to let other people’s problems ruin my day every day.
It’s not lacking empathy, it’s setting limits and taking care of my own mental health.
it’s not about “letting other people’s problems ruin your day”, it’s about being content with your life without going on some online forum and announcing unasked in a thread about the growing existential problems of a large part of the world’s population that you’re doing great. Bless your heart, but that doesn’t help the people who are NOT doing great. That is what this thread is about, and that is my point.
You don’t know what helps or doesn’t help other people, speak for yourself. Nor do you decide what the thread is or isn’t about. Feel free to Downvote and move along if you don’t like it.
I’m doing OK.
How dare you!?
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I’m doing ok and I hope for the best for all the rest of you who are struggling
Let’s see, I’m a month away from being $500 short on rent. Me and my wife separated this year after 3 years. I’m a single parent of a two year old. I was diagnosed with autism and panic disorder last august at the age of 35. My mom died of a fentanyl overdose in 2021, two weeks before my son was born. I’ve been dealing with work burnout after working in food/retail management during Covid, the lockdown, and customers cussing me out over Covid policies and being disgusting in general. I changed jobs, hate the current job, still burnt out. And I’ve had Covid 3 times and my lungs haven’t been the same since the first time.
I’m honestly doing OK. I’ve found my passion for my hobbies again and am feeling confident I can weather this
Sorry to dump all that on you . It’s like therapy.
Seems like you’re focusing the good, more power to ya. I’d say it gets better, but that’s a crapshoot, you can however learn to cope better, be well.
I’m certainly trying
