Unironically hit the gym. I’ll guarantee that you will feel better if you practice some kind of physical activity 3 times a week. It’s literally impossible to have negative feelings after a good gym session. Trust me on this.

I would say find something to do. Hobbies, events, anything. Recently I’ve actually looked for stuff to do and have some advice: check out Meetup, Eventbrite, look for County events, City events calendar, comedy clubs (costs money), Standup comedy places (free), open mic nights, check out volunteering opportunities, also check out community college classes and events I know I’ve found some lifelong friends at community college. I’ve also found geocaching to be a fun activity, you might meet some new friends doing it.

Find something you think is more important than you and give your time to it

I feel like it but I don’t get the vacations and I know my reason for my unhappiness is my wifes health along with the loss of wealth across generations (don’t get me wrong I do well enough for my age group and certainly would not want to be younger) and finally the whole my race is destroying the biosphere.

If you’re not comfortable being by yourself, then that’s the part to work on.

if you feel good traveling, travel more.

lol this is bait. You have land, a house, a family, and at minimum 4 weeks PTO per year spent on international destination vacations. Ok bro sure you’re bored

I don’t think I can add to what people have already so I’ll just say that I sincerely hope you overcome this phase and get into better times. I know the feeling and it really sucks. Hang in there and remember to be kind to yourself.

I don’t have any wise words that someone else hasn’t already said, I just wanted to let you know that this is very common at this stage of life, and that you’re not the only one - Never alone, but still lonely.

I’m going to echo Ahardyfellow and Auster, but put it here so it hits your inbox.

It sounds like you are struggling with connections and novelty. Be active and ping your friend network, see who is up for doing new things with you: find a new restaurant and catch up, go to an active collaborative activity like an escape room, etc. Push yourself a few times and it will build momentum and keep you all connected.

If your friends aren’t up for these things, find new friends (and keep the old, you can have more than one friend group and they don’t have to interact).

I’m an introvert and leech off my wife’s friend group so I’m not the expert on making new friends, but I think Auster’s idea is solid: Find a hobby that gets you out of the house and talk to people doing the same thing. Plan to see each interaction as a success, even if it doesn’t make you a new friend or even go well. The goal is to socialize, and if you do that enough, you will find people who make you happier.

Novelty is a big factor in our happiness that doesn’t seem to be talked about much. If you are always following the same routine, try and shake it up. It’s not comfortable at the start if you’ve been in a rut, but it will make you happier. Put it on your calendar to do something new. Even if it’s only once a month, and the ‘newness’ is just doing something you like in a different place. Again, it’s momentum, and more challenging new things will seem less daunting over time.

Sounds like you’ve got some stuff figured out and you should be proud of that! It sucks when friends drift apart, maybe you could initiate some hangouts if you haven’t tried that already. Not just ‘we should hang out some time’ but something like ‘hey want to to get together this weekend and see a movie’.

As for feeling lost and bored, I can relate. I still don’t really know how to handle that, I try to lose myself in a hobby, or deep dive into something that interests me. Doesn’t make it stop but it helps forget about it for a while.

Stay real friend <3

If I understand correctly, you’re struggling with isolation? If so, and if you have the time and resources for it, maybe finding a hobby, sports club, etc. in your area could help?