They were not giving advice. they were mocking men and dismissing male loneliness as a non-issue.
I don’t know the solution for loneliness specifically, but hatred towards men for being virgins or being unsuccessful with women will only exacerbate the issue.
These tweets and TikTok videos aren’t worth responding to. Their arguments have no basis, calling her viewers pedos, Shoe making herself look like a little girl, men building the system, etc. It’s all pure misandry. A lot of feminists have and still continue to see gender issues as a zero sum game. They tell men to open, yet when men do all they receive is hatred.
It’s like a political expression of borderlinePD abuse. Narcissists with a victim complex.
Also, I don’t get grifter vibes from Shoe, she’s being doing this for years and calls out problematic people regardless of gender or political leaning.
I’ve not got any kids so I have no court experience. The only thing going for my country is that in a 50/50 custody situation, the mother is not entitled to child maintenance. That being said, a father getting 50/50 or primary custody seems to be pretty uncommon. I think it’s pretty true that women don’t really have the fear losing custody of their children when initiating divorce, it’s assumed she will get it.
I’ve noticed that when there’s a discussion on marriage being designed to make the breadwinner (generally men) fear leaving, people deny it. Yet when you bring up having children outside of marriage, those same people will tell women to get married to make it difficult for him to leave.
Legend!
Clothing options for men needs to updated in some workplaces as well.
Yeah, that’s why they’ve latched on to toxic masculinity, that way they can say that discrimination faced by men is actually misogyny and continue saying misandry doesn’t exist.
Of course, though I would apply those expectations on everybody. I meant expectations based on gender such as providing, protecting, etc.
Expecting men to behave a certain way and shaming them for not doing so is misandry. The same way shaming women who don’t want to be housewives is misogyny.
“society expects men to be fearless and brave” is misandry
Yes, the counterpart feminists will typically use is internalised misogyny. They never use toxic femininity and usually get angry if someone mentions it, which says they are completely aware of the victim blaming nature of the term. They believe that sexism against men actually roots from misogyny, hence their reluctance with terms like misandry or internalised misandry. Agency plays a big role in this as well, men are thought to have complete control over their lives whereas women are thought to have little to no agency.
Yes, essentially it makes it look like they’re doing something when really they aren’t.
Also, if men don’t like the term, they should respect that instead of forcing it on them. Often times when a man is asking for support, there is a person lecturing him about toxic masculinity. They care more about people using the term and spreading their propaganda than to actually offer real help.
The reason toxic masculinity is favoured as a term is to avoid acknowledging misandry.
Feminists commonly used to that discrimination against men is actually due to misogyny. For example, men are afraid to cry because it’s seen as feminine. So since they believe men’s issues root from misogyny, toxic masculinity is the perfect term for them.
This is problematic since some issues such as male suicide are thought to be due to toxic masculinity. Whereas real world data shows that men aren’t afraid to seek help, therapy is both difficult to access (in the UK) and isn’t really geared towards dealing with men.
“The startling statistic from the research showed that of those men who had taken their own lives and had actually sought help and were assessed for suicidal risk in 2017, 80% had been assessed by clinicians as having low or no risk of suicide; this is troubling and an issue that must be addressed. These men are talking but who was listening? This lack of understanding of male suicidality (stressors, transversal issues and life transitions) is key, especially when presented in indirect ways.”
https://equi-law.uk/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/APPG-MB-Male-Suicide-Report-9-22.pdf
What doesn’t get mentioned about the clinical trials is that some of the men were infertile for a few years after they stopped taking birth control and in one case, he was rendered permanently infertile. Some cases resulted in low sperm count as well.