semi- Serious question, Idon’t get it. Most of us get why the hegemonic gender system is stupid, why subscribe to the binary role you were assigned? Also, why do straight people exist? Maybe it’s just me but I like to look and feel like my own perception of what is attractive.
When I was younger, my parents thought I was going to be homosexual because I was experimenting with girl toys, headbands, and such. I later grew out of it, but for being autistic, I actually don’t mind being feminine in different ways, but I still identify as a man because that’s simply how I feel and am comfortable with. I am heterosexual and probably demisexual. I never really decided my gender just as a nonbinary person never did. Some of us may be conditioned, but it is important to note that the nonbinary population makes up a small percentage of the world. Most people are comfortable with being their gender, binary or nonbinary.
I recommend this video regarding gender noncomfority in cisgender autistic people: https://yewtu.be/watch?v=4Jl2a36g0r0