Relevant XKCD:

Find an instance with lax admin rules, make your own communities where you don’t ban anyone for anything except “something actually terrible like pure hate speech or asking for horrible stuff” and appoint only mods who think the same approach is the right direction to take.

Mods have all the power over their communities, that’s the same everywhere. The Fediverse has the advantage that multiple communities can exist and you can choose which to use.

You say that you get banned for “no reason”, using a new account without any history. Tell us your usernames which got banned and show us that you got banned for “no reason”. Every instance has a modlog, in which everyone can see the reasons for your ban. Using a fresh account doesn’t exactly raise your trustworthiness.

Do you think Reddit or any other social media is better than Lemmy? This network has the power of decentralisation, so if you always get banned from everywhere, create your own instance or community or search for an instance that will tolerate or accept your views and mannerisms. That is the power of the Fediverse.

You may also want to understand that the Fediverse is mostly used by inclusive and socially progressive people, which may be in conflict with your views, but I can’t check that if you use a fresh account.

Anyone who runs a community or their own server SHOULD be able to ban anyone they want. That’s one of the biggest selling points of the fediverse for me. Don’t like how reddit and it’s communities are run? That kinda sucks since there’s not much of an alternative there. Don’t like lemmy.world? Go over to beehaw then. Make whatever subs you miss over there and ban those who try to ruin it for you

I keep getting banned from some places for no reason, no insults, no replies or not obeying the rules… Mods have too much power.

Ban evasion is a bannable offense. That’s the rule you keep breaking. Also you can look at the mod log to see why you get banned. The reasons for you have been “trolling” and “incel shit” which are very deserved based on your posting history.

Can you explain your experience from the beginning? If it’s as you describe, it would help to get to get to the bottom of things.

How can you hate it this much with a six-hour old account?

If everything smells like shit everywhere you go, maybe you should check your own shoes.

I haven’t been banned anywhere yet and I make the LAMEST jokes.

I’m guessing that the fact you made a brand new account just for this post means you were probably banned for a very good reason and you don’t want us to know what it was… Seems like you probably did do something horrible and you’re trying to evade a ban

Every server has a level of tolerance for certain, I’ll call them “antisocial”, attitudes on their forums. By expressing antisocial attitudes, I mean saying stuff that makes people not want to hang out and discuss in the online space, even if not pure hate speech or horrible stuff. When you converse in those forums, you have to follow both your home instance and the destination instance’s rules. You know how you need to express yourself differently between your BFFs, your romantic partner, your parents, strangers at a bar, strangers on a bus, your work colleagues or your boss? Same thing here. If you need earnest advice, here’s some:

• Using nicknames like “Fuckers” and “Hate” is already not a good start as that is itself a wilful expression of negativity. Try a more neutral or positive one: BlueFlower, TeaStamp, HoundRoad, it doesn’t matter. You can also change the nick of accounts you’d already previously created.
• Read the modlog for why that account got banned, read the cited rule. Check if you were banned from your home site, remote site or a specific community and read those site rules. If you want to participate in that specific server, you need to change your behaviour, not the mod(s) that banned you.
• If you try to circumvent bans with new accounts, you can be banned without explanation. Don’t do that.
• Try not to post in succession about a single lewd or contentious topic as if you had an obsession with it, especially in communities that aren’t specifically about that.
• Try to be more careful when you’re on a new account, you are more likely to be accused of being a troll or hack on political threads, and a spammer if you just start posting a torrent of stuff right after signing up. There’s no global karma system but there is the idea of rep that you get with account age that lets you say slightly more controversial things, that’s up to the discretion of every moderator and reported violations can still get a longtimer banned just the same as a newcomer.
• I’m not saying that this is necessarily how you acted, but you will see more success if you can, in general, talk to people like someone who’s not a jerk.

If you think these rules of talking to other people online on the Fediverse are ridiculous, you are welcome to make your own Lemmy, Kbin, Piefed, or whatever instance (with blackjack and hookers), and set the rules within your own communities yourself.

You know the best thing about the fediverse is?

If you don’t like how instances are run, you can go make your own and run it how you like it.

Here are the install docs

Seems you created a new account just for this post, leaving us without the ability to look into what happened in the past and no evidence of your own for the claims made. You might have a point, but you could also just be a jerk.

Mods and admins are the people responsible for upholding rules and stopping hate speech, with the assistance of the community. How should they do this without the power to silence violent voices and rule-breakers? Actual question, moderation is a complex social system.

If you genuinely believe you have been banned for no reason, please reach out to people capable of helping you with all relevant information, assuming you haven’t done so already.

If you were a jerk, consider good ol’ self reflection.

If you find yourself constantly surrounded by assholes, there’s a very high chance that you are in fact the asshole.