Maybe there’s nothing wrong with me in a purely egalitarian sense, as in there’s nothing instrinsically wrong with anyone’s race. I agree.

My race is problematic specifically because of people who behave much more differently than me because of the way I look. From a quality of life perspective it would be better if I appeared less black.

I’m glad that you don’t think my nose size is weird. Get your friends from the lower mainland drunk enough and ask them their earnest opinion of black people.

My large nose is the biggest giveaway that I am black, very black. Reduce the size of my nose and I’m one step removed from looking like a black African. Maybe I should reduce the size of my lips? Maybe I need to do something with my skull or eyelids so less of my eyeballs show? Not sure, which is why I came here.

Therapy will make me feel good in the moment but it doesn’t change my reality. Even if I 3nd up spending 60k+ cad on these surgeries(I’ll likely be going to Turkey for the more invasive ones) it will pay off both from an economical standpoint and quality of life standpoint.

I know there’s a better forum for this somewhere, but it’s not exactly like raceswapping is in vogue yet. My uncle openly brags about how much lighter his skin is now and talks about the Lebanese women he pulled, my mother wonders where I got my massive nose from. Jamaicans hate the fact that they have dark skin and if you’re not “black” in a poorly developed african nation you are automatically assumed to be more competent. Therapy isn’t going to even recognize this as an issue, and it’s not something that I can fix alone.

Thank you. And your right about the peanut shape. I’ll try growing out my hair

I can’t win.

My boss and my friends regularly make racial jokes. Old Asian ladies look visibly upset when they suddenly see me and people have steered onto oncoming traffic to avoid walking in my general direction. Professors think I’m fucking retarded and I have to prove extra hard to them that I’m serious about this class.

I think indigenous people have it worse than me.

It is in my best interest to not appear black. I’m 96% Ghanaian. Even looking vaguely Indian or mixed would be a massive improvement in regards to how society perceives me.

I’ll try using this example:

Being very short in a very tall society as a man sucks. People automatically see you as being less masculine. You will have a harder time dating. Shorter people, regardless of competency, will earn on avg significantly less money over the course of a life time compared to taller people.

There exists really short people who have managed to attain a high income, a partner who loves them and is well respected by the society they live in. This person would also both be out of the norm and will admit that their life was unusually harder compared to his average height peers.

We now have surgery to increase your height. The short dude in question here would be justified in believing that life would be easier for him if he was taller.

I’m very black in a very not-black city. It is ultimately in my best interest to appear less obviously black. I can’t speak for Toronto but I’m not convinced that there is a pro black region anywhere. If you’re white/South asian/East Asian/Arab, you will be perceived as more competent than local Ghanaians as soon as you step foot in the country.

Skin bleaching happens to a ridiculous degree in Ghana.

I know my nose signifies that I’m black so I’m talking to a surgeon about rhinoplasty ATM. It would be nice if people just set aside their need to tell me that it’s racist the way I’m perceived and actually gave me some advice. We both agree that black = bad, so let’s skip over this conversation entirely.

I have no clue how I would even begin to phrase my question so that I get actual answers while avoiding the troll accusations.

I’m glad that we agree that people are racist. It isn’t comforting to know that I’ll face extra challenges wrt employment and relationships because people are scared of my very existence. Maybe I should’ve posted myself in my company attire?

Something about my face is signifying to people that I am black. I already have funds set aside for rhinoplasty. It’s as if people are going out of their way to ignore this and I don’t know why.

Yes but that’s not particularly useful information. None of the people I’m pictured with are black, due to the demographics of the city.

FreeBSD was a nightmare for me to use. I applaud the people who managed to resolve those driver issues.

Duly noted. Idk how you noticed but ty

Yeah you’re right, I don’t usually wear this and it does feel weird. The pants, belts and shirt combined were only 40 dollars so I was really worried it would look cheap.

I appreciate the advice immensely.

I’ll worry about it later. nrn

Thanks. I got the A+ a few days ago and I already got an interview. I know I’m insanely lucky so I don’t wanna squander it.

I agree but noone uses this washroom. I share the house with 4 other people…